As a girl, I'm sure I've friend-zoned a handful of guys in the past and I certainly did so to one guy in particular when I first came to college. We've seen it happen all the time on TV... Lizzie Mcguire and Gordo, Kim Possible and Ron Stoppable, etc. But what happens when your best guy friend makes it out of the friend-zone? Well, honestly... it's really not that different, people just tease you about when you'll start dating less.
But in all seriousness, it's like an old school Taylor Swift love song come true. I'm dating my best friend, and he's my other half, not that he wasn't already before. I met him at an orientation program for school over the summer which was a chance for incoming freshman to learn more about the school and make new friends. And I guess it was successful, 'cause I met my best friend there. I knew I wanted to be friends with him from the first moment I saw him and our personalities drew us together instantly. By the end of the three-day orientation, we were the best of friends and spent most of our first semester that way, until he dragged himself out of the friend-zone. (I admitted before that I friend-zoned him, and I'll fess up to it again here, he was a great guy, I just didn't want to ruin our friendship.)
But, I know now that if the timing is right, it's a solid decision because you're already perfectly comfortable with other. There's no awkward first date, no pretending to be a better version of yourself, no stress, and no fear. It just feels like adding a new layer onto your friendship... which just seems natural for us. We were compatible as friends, and we certainly are as a couple.
Why do we always friend-zone the best ones? I understand that we want to save them for later and that we don't want to ruin the friendship... but it's like putting the shiniest penny away on the highest shelf. I've dealt with a few not so nice guys in the past, but I don't understand why I didn't just go for the nice ones instead of throwing them to the side. I know my boyfriend is a good one because I've been best friends with him for months. I know him, I know his personality and his quirks and everything that makes him happy or upset. We talked about everything before, spent a ton of time together, and had no argument we couldn't settle in a matter of minutes.
Very little has changed, and if anything, those changes make us happier and bring us closer. Dating my best friend is a great experience and I'd like to challenge those reading this to let a poor friend-zoned soul have a chance. You might just find love.
