I'm Best Friends With Your Boyfriend, Deal With It
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I'm Best Friends With Your Boyfriend, Deal With It

We both get to share one pretty great guy.

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I'm Best Friends With Your Boyfriend, Deal With It
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Yes, I am best friends with your boyfriend. What does all of this mean? Let me explain it to you.

1. I am not trying to date him.

First things first. I have no interest in your boyfriend whatsoever. To me, he is like the older brother I never got to have. We point out potential significant others for each other, protect one another, and share a bond that is unbreakable. With that, however, he is completely not my type. Yes, I may send him a text or Snapchat to him whenever you guys are together, but this does not mean I am trying to seduce him. I just want whatever is best for him. He is the one guy who has seen me without makeup on or I never felt the need to make an impression. Your boyfriend has only helped me find love with the right person that does not include himself. Please do not jump down his neck whenever he says something about me or whenever I talk to him. I know that in movies that have portrayed best friends falling for one another. Remember that is fiction. We're only friends and I can promise you that.

2. He tells me all about you.

Whether it be a positive or negative thing, I have most likely heard about it through a text message or overall a phone call. I am your boyfriend's secret keeper and personal guidance counselor. Overall, it is most likely because he just wants to make the best decision for himself and needs an outside perspective. Best friends give each other advice, so that is one of my many tasks.

3. I plan each date you two go on.

As much as I love my best friend, he's a bit simple minded. He is clueless when it comes to romantic gestures because he never had a serious girlfriend. Congratulations because you're the first girl he is taking seriously. We have spent so many late nights trying to plan out how he should ask you or building up the confidence to do so. Now, we have a new dilemma which includes planning out each date to the pint, so he does not mess it up. All he wants to do is impress you. Believe me. He told me himself. I guess that is one fo the benefits for him of having a girl as his best friend. He gets some sort of insight what we may like, but also everyone is different.

4. He is fragile.

Whether he wants to admit it or not, he is gentle. He just has been heartbroken so many times or never cared about the relationship like this before. Please just be gentle with him in return. You seem like a decent girl so far and he is so happy to be with you. However, if you do hurt him, I will in return have negative feelings towards you. I am not saying you have to date him for the long haul and end up getting married. If you guys do end up getting married, great. If you break his heart by being dishonest and toying with his heart, that's where we are going to have a problem.

5. You mean the world to him.

Like I've mentioned numerous times already, you are so special to him. He has never this much towards someone before. Let me tell you that he was a player for a while because he never saw the importance of being intimate and vulnerable with someone. He also had a tough time getting close to people because of previous trust issues. However, you made such an impression on him that he is beginning to open up to you. Be patient. He is new to the whole love idea and is learning. Just tell him what you like and what you are looking for, and I will help him deliver just that.

6. Our friendship will never be anything like your relationship.

Sure, I have asked him for advice regarding dating and know all his intimate secrets. However, you are his girlfriend. You get to experience a side of him that I never will. You will get to see his dorky side expressed through kind gestures and love. You may get to see him clean himself up for a fancy date or to meet your parents. Also, you will see how nervous he gets when coming to pick you up until he realizes you like him back. That's the kind of guy. I have witnessed it, but never experienced. You're one lucky girl to get him that way because that is a side never seen before even in the eyes of his best friend since junior high.

There is nothing between your boyfriend and I. If that is a problem for you, I guess you leave now or get use to it because I am not going anywhere. There is nothing you can do to try to ruin our friendship because him and I have been through it all. However, you are his girlfriend. You will get to spend more time than I will, but I will also be there from time to time. Just be careful with his heart. He's my best friend. My partner in crime. I never want to see him hurt for opening his heart to you, the girl of his dreams.

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