I Don't Need Anyone To "Complete" Me

I Don't Need Anyone To "Complete" Me

And neither do you.
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You'll find the person that completes you someday.

We hear it so often lately that it's ridiculous.

Which implies that I'm not already whole and need someone else to complete me. That's an issue because it creates the idea that people aren't whole on their own, and it makes people feel broken when they can't find someone they want to be with.

It's ok to be alone sometimes, but it's even more ok to be happy being alone. People are already complete beings on their own.

When people get into a relationship, they should people that compliment each other. Whether its the opposites that attract or its the exact same, relationships aren't meant to make a person whole. They're meant to be a person that you work together with to create something more, but its not completing another person.

No one is half of a person waiting for someone to come along and make them one whole person.

It doesn't matter if someone's been through a lot and they're still dealing with, if they have disabilities, if they have a disease, or if they're just lonely. It doesn't make you any less complete.

This idea that people aren't complete until they find someone else that they could live the rest of their life with is toxic to people. It's why people are more and more likely to go through multiple relationships as they look for the one.

There's no problem with people wanted to find the person they want to be with, but when it becomes a quest to be "complete", its an issue. No one deserves to think they aren't whole.

Everyone has their interests, their dislikes, their hobbies, their friends, their family, hopes, and dreams. They're a complete person on their own, and they deserve to feel that way instead of thinking they need someone to complete them.

It shouldn't be to the point where that's family members first question when someone comes home for a break from college.

So who are you dating? Seeing anyone?

Don't worry, you'll find someone.

I'm happy being alone because I'm a whole person. I don't need someone to complete me, and no one else does either.

If someone wants a relationship, it should make them happy and fulfilled, but not complete. Everyone is already whole and complete. There's nothing wrong with being single, and there's nothing wrong with being in a relationship.

It's when you feel like that is the only thing that makes you whole is it a problem.

You can still wait for the right person to come along while enjoying yourself alone. Being happy with yourself is amazing because you can discover yourself on your own, and if you get in a relationship, you can continue to do so with that person.

When you let another person complete you though, you might develop yourself in a way to become completely dependent on that person instead. That can be toxic because it will result in not knowing how to be yourself if something happens to the relationship.

You're already whole, and when you enter a relationship, remember that.

You're already complete, you're already amazing.

You don't need to be made complete because you already are.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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10 Ways To Start Your Days Off Right By Bringing A Little Joy And Positivity Into Your Morning

"Listen to the birds sign a sweet morning song."

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I'll be the first to admit, I'm not exactly what you would call a "morning person." That being said, I think it's high time I bring some joy into my mornings. I mean, life is beautiful, and by not enjoying mornings, I think I'm missing out on a potentially enjoyable part of life.

So if you want to start enjoying your mornings like me, here are ten things you might want to try doing to start your days off right.

1. Make a happy and healthy breakfast.

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Make some toast, eggs, fruit, granola, or yogurt. OR, break out the bacon and have a good time. Any of those options sound like a good morning to me.

2. Drink a fresh cup of coffee (or tea).

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For me, I don’t think anything could beat the smell of a coffee being made in the morning. So whether you’re into coffee or tea, use a nice warm drink as a way to bring a little joy into your mornings.

3. Smile when you wake up.

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Start your morning with a good old-fashioned smile. Look in the mirror, look at how wonderfully made you are, and take a moment to smile and take that in.

4. Try to stay off of social media when you first wake up.

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I know, it’s all too easy to become glued to your phone these days, BUT I think that’s a few moments of time away from it, and away from social media, can be a good way to stay positive in the mornings.

5. Journal your thoughts going into the day.

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Take a pen, pencil, and a piece of paper, and take a moment to write down your thoughts, feelings, emotions, or anything else on your mind going into a new day.

6. Put on clothes that make you feel happy.

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Put on whatever outfit makes you happy, whether that’s a cute sweater or a t-shirt. Wear something that makes you feel good.

7. Watch the sunrise.

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OK, so I know you might not be able to do this every morning, but I think that watching the sunrise is the perfect way to start any day. What could be better than taking in all of these wonderful creations?

8. If you can, sit outside and enjoy our planet.

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On that note, take some time to sit outside and enjoy the early morning and the world around you. Start your morning off with some time to really just sit back and take it all in.

9. Spend some time reading something you enjoy.

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Grab a good book, a magazine, or whatever it is you might like to read. Take some time to clear your mind, and then fill it with lots of good writing.

10. Listen to the birds sign a sweet morning song.

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Arguably my favorite thing on the list, I truly can see no downside to listening to the birds chirping away in the morning. If you can, take some time to listen to nature’s sweet morning song.

Hopefully you can try one of these tactics to brighten up your morning, and in turn, maybe even brighten up your whole day. We live in a wonderful world, and I think that it's time we start to recognize that.

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