To start, I will NEVER understand why people think that it is appropriate to insert there opinion when it has not been asked of them. I want to know how I look in a top, tell me. I want your opinion on how my singing sounds for an audition, go for it. But don't you ever think to say something negative about someone's appearance if it was not explicitly stated that they want your opinion.
I was recently asked the question, "What are your children going to think of your tattoos?" And a few thoughts traveled through my mind. First, how do you know I want children? Second, why do you care? And third, they will probably grow up to be less of a judgmental asshole than you.
Many tattooed people are misjudged for reasons that are not valid. If you have a moment of shock in the grocery store when you see someone that's heavily tattooed, many of us understand. If you see a piercing that's not your cup of tea, that's absolutely fine. As long as you keep your opinion to yourself, you are good to go, because thats a lot more than what many other people do.
I'm not here talking about tattoos in the workplace, because we could go on for days about my opinions on that. What I am saying is that when you say rude things about tattoos to people with tattoos, you are criticizing a part of us that is permanently there. If Becky from down the street got a nose job and you didn't like it, would you tell her? I'm going to guess not. Did Sue's boob job make her look like she was about to fall over? Probably, but that's one you're going to keep to herself, too. But guess what? That's what they wanted to do to their body, and they have the right to do it.
I'm not getting tattoos for attention, or to feel special. I simple like art, and want it on my body. It's really not that deep. I don't think that my body is such a temple that, of course, it deserves to be decorated. I'm not super narcissistic about my looks, I didn't get them to say "look at me and how hot I am!" I got them, knowing that there would be backlash, but liking them that much that the benefit outweighed the cost.
If your daughter grows up thinking that she's going to have big boobs because her mom does, only to find out that her mom had a boob job, she's going to have to deal with it. My kids will see me with tattoos, and that is absolutely fine with me. If they want tattoos when they're older, that's great. If they don't, that's also great. Everybody has choices to make, and people who know nothing about you shouldn't feel the need to stick their damn nose where it doesn't belong.
