If you're reading this...

Hello, how are you? I would have liked to meet you on better terms...

I want you to know that the child you brought into this world is angry and hurt. They don't understand why someone who is supposed to love them unconditionally can be so mean. That you, who they look up to, can degrade the other parent without any consideration for what that will do to their child. It sucks to watch this beautiful child go through such torment. And I wish I could do more for them. I wish that I could take them away from all of the anguish they must be feeling.

While you do not know me, or my background or who I am to your child- it doesn't matter. I am in your child's life, looking in from one particular stage of their lives where they really need both parents working towards bettering their child. However, it seems that from the get-go you never really cared about your child, whereas your former partner did and does care. They want what's best for your child. As do the people in your former partner's life. That's where I come in. I've watched your child grow into a decent human being. Granted it is not where they should be but it is an improvement. And that was without YOUR help.

Especially when it was on Mother's Day and all your child wanted was to give you a cute drawn on Hallmark Card with their name etched on the card in red crayon. They love you so much and all they wanted to do was to spend some time with their mom at a park enjoying the beautiful sunny day. But no, you had to make everything difficult for every person involved.

And while you think you were just aggravating your former partner, you were actually really damaging/hurting your child both now and in the future. If you really loved or cared about either your former partner or child, you would have walked away and not bothered anyone about them. Let them get the help they so desperately need. Eventually, they will ask about you. I promise.

Coming from a woman who had a similar parental situation. Note I said SIMILAR. I too would get nervous whenever I was to meet up with my father. It became almost paralyzing to watch cars pass by expecting it to be him every time. I hadn't thought about that in a very long time or had that gut sinking feeling in what seemed like forever. I had almost forgotten it existed. But waiting for you to come and meet your child on Mother's Day and to have you not show up after we waited for over an hour, and watch the look on your child's face go from happy to extremely sad and hurt within a matter of moments. I cried for them and prayed to God that one day when your child is older, they realize that any person can be a "parent" but it takes a really special one to be a Mom (or a Dad).

You gave birth to a truly amazing little human, and even after all the messed up things that have occurred to them because of you- they still walk around happy and with a huge smile on their face. I just hope they will grow up not being angry or bitter because that is not a good or healthy way to be.

Sincerely,

Someone in your child's life who actually cares