If love could have saved us there are endless possibilities of where we may be. Eating ice cream and watching Netflix in your bed for the day. Maybe we would be planning our next trip to a place we have never seen or been but want to experience together. Maybe we would be on a simple walk taking in the world around us. But we are not. WE are non-existent anymore. That's ok.
The loss of love is not often the reason we part from people. Our downfall is often circumstances, bumps in the road and wounds we have no intention of healing. We are young, not ready to conform or sacrifice things for our partner yet. It does not mean we don't love. We love people in so many different ways it's incredible. Love is such a fragile thing that can be shifted and molded into what we want. The love I have for my mom is a different love than I have for my best friend or someone I date. We all use love in different forms.
That boyfriend or girlfriend you loved that broke your heart or you just had to part with was no exception to a form of your love. It was a love that was deep and had the intentions of being everlasting but it somehow did not make it that far. No matter what the reason was for you two parting ways just know it was most likely not the loss of love. It is hard to lose love for someone. No matter how angry or upset we get with that person many times our love for them overpowers the anger and frustration. You can always find a place in your heart for those you have loved along the way. If just love could have saved me I would still be with my high school boyfriend. If just love could save us, our relationships, we would be quick to realize not all love is the love we are meant to spend a lifetime with. There is a difference between a lightweight love and a deep pounding love. Do not settle for just love.
The person you are meant to be with is somewhere in this world. Maybe they have been out there spinning their wheels settling for mediocre love. They have yet to put their best efforts into love because it is not the kind of love they want the rest of their life. We so often settle for mediocre love thinking this is actually what love is or we tell ourselves we can live with this the rest of our lives. No! Be thankful for the obstacle you and your partner did not overcome. Be thankful that bump in the road took you way off course. No matter how many tears you shed or nights it kept you up be thankful God saved you from spending your life with someone whose love was just satisfactory. I have no doubt your partner loved you but it probably wasn't in the extraordinary way people spend a lifetime living and thriving off of.
It will take a few heartbreaks or average love experiences to find that one you know you can't live without. Mediocore love breaks our hearts so often and that is ok. Being hurt by someone does not mean they were the one for you. It just means you loved them in your own special way and it is still sad you have to let go of it. We are human and have feelings, a sad movie can make me cry or break my heart. It doesn't mean it is the saddest movie of all time though. Do not let the heartbreak of an ordinary love be mistaken for unremarkable love.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
Be thankful love didn't save you. Thank goodness you have continuously overcome ordinary love, it only prepares you for extraordinary love. Experiences teach us things, we grow, we learn, we fall down and get back up. Do not deny someone the chance to love you just because you don't think they have the capability of incredible love. Let people in, learn from them, we always miss the chances we didn't take. Take a chance if it goes up in flames, keep going. One day the right love is going to save you.
