9 Things I Love About Being A Child Of A Military Man

9 Things I Love About Being A Child Of A Military Man

Being apart of a military family requires sacrifice and can be difficult at times but it also has its advantages.


My dad served in the navy for 23 years and is now retired. I'm grateful for his service and how it has shaped the person I am today.

1. The ability to live in unique places

My brother and I visiting our old house in Sicily

Megan Adair

I have 4 siblings and we were all born in different states! The best place we've ever lived is Sicily, which is also where I was born. People are always shocked when I say I was born out of the country. From what I remember about living in Sicily, it was amazing. Last summer, we were able to return there for the first time in 13 years and we even visited our old house.

2. You learn to cherish each moment

My dad was deployed for months at a time so whenever he was home, we would all cherish our time together. A big lesson I've learned from my experiences in life is to not take anything for granted. In a way, his deployment brought my family closer together.

3. You learn independence at a young age

When my dad was deployed, it was just my mom taking care of us 5 kids. I became a very independent child which I'm grateful for today. Independence is needed to be a successful student and to start taking care of yourself so I'm happy I developed mine at an earlier age.

4. Improvement in your social skills

In my early childhood, we moved around a lot. Starting in Sicily then to North Carolina then back to Sicily then to Maryland where my dad eventually retired. All the moves meant constantly having to make new friends at each location. With each move, it got easier to make friends and looking back, I feel like I developed good social skills from this.

5. Having a military I.D.


There are many perks to having a military I.D. Many stores gives military discounts. In Maryland, we live near the Naval Academy so when we go every Sunday for church, we are able to park on base instead of having to walk on like everyone else.

6. You're eligible for several scholarships

Megan Adair

One of my scholarships that I have right now and a couple that I'm in the process of applying for are military scholarships. For someone who is dependent on scholarships, it's nice that they have a whole category set aside that you're eligible for.

7. Living on a military base

This might not seem like a perk to some but I find military bases fascinating. You have everything you could possibly need within footsteps. The houses are so close together but that only means you'll know all your neighbors well and make new friends from them. My family is still in touch with our old neighbors from Sicily.

8. You become used to change

It's very common for people to not like change but life is full of changes! Being exposed to several changes as a kid has definitely helped me become quick to adjust. I now look at change as a positive thing that brings new opportunities.

9. The commissary and navy exchange

The commissary and navy exchange are stores requiring a military I.D. to shop at. The commissary is a grocery store which usually has groceries for cheaper than normal. The navy exchange is a store that pretty much has everything (clothing, jewelry, shoes, etc.) The items are usually discounted too.

I definitely have a greater appreciation and understanding of the military from my dad's service. I'm grateful to be the daughter of a veteran.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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12 Signs That You're Turning Into Your Parents, But It's Not The End Of The World

The transformation has begun, and honestly, I'm here for it.


Being in college and living away from home, I have become more independent. When I was in high school, I did a lot by myself: laundry, some cooking, cleaning my room, etc. However, since entering college, not only have I become more adult-like in my responsibilities, but also in my mindset. If you do these 12 things, chances are, you've become a true adult too.

1. High school-esque drama literally doesn't bother you anymore

The whole "he said/she said" attitude about the world now just seems petty and annoying. The only "she said" I care about is myself. I've learned that other peoples' opinions of me matter, but they do not define who I am.

2. You text your friend group chat about getting new kitchen appliances

When my mom told me that our kitchen appliances were going to be updated, I literally whipped out my phone and sent in the group message "I'm getting a new fridge tomorrow" followed by hundreds of exclamation points and emojis. And, as an indication that my friends are the best friends in the world (and that they too are turning into their mothers), they all texted back "YASSS" and "When can we come see it omg"

3. You get excited to read books and go to bed at 10 p.m.

Some people's summer 2019 fantasies might involve getting crazy on a beach, or partying until the sun comes up. Granted, those things do have a certain amount of allure to them. However, my ideal summer night kinda sorta most definitely involves reading at sunset on my porch swing and then going to bed early so I can finally get a full night of sleep.

4. You get more and more into The Ellen Show every day

Okay, Ellen DeGeneres has always been awesome. But now, her awesomeness is 20x what it was when I was in high school. There's just something about wholesome talk show comedy that makes me believe in the world again.

5. Your knees hurt when it's going to rain

Okay, this is more a "my knees are like an old person's knees" thing, but I swear my knees can tell the weather. Bible!

6. Swiffering is your stress relief

Yes, I would take a bullet for my Swiffer. Yes, I know that is absurd. But cleaning makes me feel so calm!! #NoShame

7. You don't let your friends leave your dorm room until they're well fed

Snacks, anyone?? Juice? C'mon, I know you're hungry!

8. You're everyone's go-to for advice

As the Tangled song once said, "Mother knows best!" And though that mom was evil and totally crazy, the words did have some meaning. Now, you've become the hub for all of your friend's problems. Who would've thought that a sleep-deprived, caffeine-addicted teenager would be giving advice!

9. You start believing in silly superstitions

Listen, I've never walked under a ladder or passed the salt directly into someone's hands, and my life seems to be working out decently well, so I don't wanna hear it!

10.  You prefer thrift store mom jeans to high end leggings

Honestly, paying more than $25 for a pair of leggings just puts me in a state of pure anxiety. Plus, mom jeans are comfy and give you room to breathe, so who wouldn't want that?

11.  You can't remember anything without writing it down

Seriously, I cannot remember a single thing unless I write it in my planner or type it in my phone. I think by now, I've filled my brain with so much useless garbage that there just isn't any room left for grocery lists or reminders.

12.  You just feel more confident in your capabilities

My parents have always encouraged me to believe in myself, and thanks to their years of support, I have grown into the confident human being I am today. Now, I feel confident and secure in myself, and am able to provide the same support to my peers and friends, to help them grow to their fullest potentials as well. What more could I ask for?

As goofy and dorky as my parents are, I'm proud that I'm becoming like them. They raised me well, and have been my role models for my whole life.

So, Aai and Baba, thank you for making me who I am today. I hope that I have made you proud and that one day, my kids can look up to me the way I do to you, and roll their eyes at how goofy their mom is, and hope that they never (but definitely inevitably will) turn out to be like me.

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