I Had Sex For The First Time In 3 Years And Here's What I Learned
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I Had Sex For The First Time In 3 Years And Here's What I Learned

I'd like to think of this as the unintentional follow-up to my previous article about not having sex for 3 years... Sometimes it just takes a 3-year break for things to click, ya know?

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I Had Sex For The First Time In 3 Years And Here's What I Learned

Ah yes, sex. It may go by a plethora of names- coitus, fornication, making love, the horizontal tango, bumping uglies- but at the end of the day it is still the universal language of love (or arousal, if that's more your style). There's nothing wrong with choosing to have sex, and there's nothing wrong with choosing not to have sex. Hell, I took a three-year hiatus but now I'm back (and better than ever, b*tches). Three years is a very long time though, and I've definitely learned a few things since 2018, so I thought I'd share with the world all of the wonderful epiphanies I've had since getting boned last week.

Sex Toys Are The Best Toys

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Now I know not everyone is comfortable using a vibrator or a cock ring, but, whether you're masturbating or fooling around with a partner, sex toys can be a magical thing. My partner and I didn't use a sex toy last week, but I wanted to note that I've been using sex toys (vibrators, dildos, etc.) since last year and holy f*ck do I highly recommend them! I promise they're not as intimidating as they seem, just do your research first before you buy anything. There's nothing worse than buying poorly made toys and then having them break a few months into using them.

Many Things Have Changed

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Yes, I know this is obvious, but I still wanted to share it with the class. I'm older, wiser, and apparently LOUDER (sorry if that's TMI.... actually, no I'm not; this is an article about sex so get used to it). I've been able to explore my body during these last few years and I've learned what feels good and what doesn't, and that is a huge part of sex. I've also seen a LOT more porn, which I think helped prepare me for Round 2 of my Sexual Awakening (who knew there were more sex positions than doggy and missionary, lol).

PREGNANCY SCARES ME

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Of course, I know that the only way to make sure I don't get pregnant is to avoid having sex, but I forgot how nerve-wracking it can be to miss a period after doing the nasty. All of my trust is going into a piece of rubber that only works 98% of the time... and that is a LOT of trust, y'all. Should I invest in better birth control? Probably. Am I going to? Maybe. Am I going to continue to have sex? You bet your ass I am! But seriously, don't go having sex unless you're mentally ready for that possibility of having a baby.

Communication Is Sexy

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I write this in almost every dang article, so I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that it's a pretty important topic to keep in mind while screwing around. I wish I had been more open about the fact that I didn't cum because then I bet my partner would have finished me off. Instead, I just went to bed because it was late, and I was too much of a chicken sh*t to say anything. I regret not saying something sooner, so please learn from my totally unsexy mistake. I'd never forgive myself if I didn't stress this enough because everybody deserves to orgasm at least once during sex!

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