I Promise I Do Not Wear My Letters To Act Like I Am Better Than You

I Promise I Do Not Wear My Letters To Act Like I Am Better Than You

Why my sorority is everywhere in my life.


Every night before I go to bed, I give myself a pep talk to look nice the next day. And by looking nice, I mean wearing jeans instead of leggings and throwing a sweater on instead of a t-shirt. I outfit prep, (kind of like food prepping but with clothes) just because I have a plethora of articles of clothing and an array of the current season's "in" colors due to my insistent shopping addiction. However, I look in my closet in the morning and I guess my motivation did not get out of bed when I did. I see my drawers full of my Greek letters so I throw on my favorite Alpha Delta Pi t-shirt (they are all my favorite) and walk out the door.

I think that some people associate sorority letters with the pride of displaying a winning sports team logo across their chest. People will wear an Iowa State shirt after a big win, signifying that their team is superior to the losing team. However, my sorority is not a sports team. I do not cheer them on from the sidelines because I am a part of the team. I do not wear my letters to be first-class to you. We are all in the game together of seeking our best selves while being surrounded by nourishing words of affirmation from people who will always go the extra mile in all aspects of their life.

I had a job interview that ended when I mentioned my experience of flourishing within a sorority. My interviewer was apparently turned off by the thought of two hundred powerful women, even appalled that I lived with sixty of them. It did not matter how deep I delved into the opportunities given to me by my home away from home. It was irrelevant that my whole world had expanded when I ran home to ADPi on bid day in a new city of unfamiliar souls, although finding familiarity within the women behind the blue door. She could not see past the media-driven stereotypes and could not see my worth. People will hear the word "sorority" and that is the end of their ability to listen. Honestly, if a job does not value something that changed my life and made me who I am today, then I do not want to be surrounded by those people who do not celebrate that my sorority gave me a safe haven to figure out who I was apart from my parents, high school friends, and the comfort of my Kansas City suburb.

I wear these letters from my azure blue ADPi hat to my Alphie the Lion ADPi socks and everything in-between to remind myself that I have the ability to do anything. Because I have met the most influential women through my sorority, I have realized that my dreams can turn into plans and those plans can become a reality. I have ADPi on my planner to remind me that learning is valuable and I owe it to myself and to the women around me to commit to putting my heart and soul into everything. I have ADPi buttons on my backpack to remember that no matter how far I go, my home and my favorite people are never too far away. So, when you see me wearing my favorite ADPi t-shirt, let that inspire you to go find what lights your world and fuels your inner fire.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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