How To Be In Love For 61 Years

How To Be In Love For 61 Years

My grandparents have been married for sixty-one years, and I asked them what the secret was.


According to the American Psychological Association, 40-50 percent of marriages end in divorce. I understand that "things happen," but how can 40-50 percent of couples tell their spouse "Until death do us part" on their wedding day, and then change their mind? Two people that have beaten the odds are near and dear to my heart: my grandparents. They have been married for sixty-one years and I wanted to know the secret. Their responses to my questions were amazing and I wanted to share them with you all.

I first asked them how they met. They were high school sweethearts! My grandparents have known each other since freshman year of high school. My grandma said they were good friends for a couple years, and even dated other people. One day, they decided they should date and the rest is history. So technically they have been together for sixty-five years and married sixty-one.

I also asked them what is the hardest part about being married and how they overcome it. My grandma said the hardest part about being married is not a big event, but the everyday. "Everyday is a challenge in itself, but you just have to keep working at it" she says. My grandpa thought there wasn't a hard part about being married, he just takes care of his wife and family everyday so everyone can have a "good life." Their advice for younger generations ties into their "challenges." They both told me that the best thing you can do is to keep working through whatever comes your way and not to give up. "Disputes are going to happen, but just work it out. It takes two to tango," my grandpa says.

The last thing I asked my grandparents was what their favorite thing about each other is. My grandma said my grandpa is a "hard-worker" and is "good-hearted." My grandpa said he couldn't pick just one thing. "Grandma is a wonderful wonderful lady that takes care of me and looks after me" he said.

This interview not only warmed my heart, but made me think about my own life. I'm not saying everyone needs to marry someone from their high school, or you won't be successful if you get a divorce, but my grandparents have a point about "working it out." Whether you are single or in a relationship, I challenge you to "work things out" in your relationships. It is so easy to give up on the people in our lives when something doesn't go our way. But if you keep working on it and not be afraid of the challenges, I think all of our relationships in our lives could blossom.

Thank you, Grandma and Grandpa for being an inspiration to me.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


the loving granddaughters

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You Don't Have To See Your Friends Every Day

We all have lives that we're trying to balance.


For as long as I can remember, whenever I would have no plans and go on Snapchat to see all my friends having fun without me, I would get FOMO. I'd get really sad and think that they didn't care about me because they didn't invite me. It would get me in such a bad mood that it would ruin any chance of going out with someone else who wanted to hang out.

I don't know if it was just my anxiety of people hating me or if it was a fear of missing out (FOMO). Even recently, it has gotten me down. However, over the past month or so, I finally realized something: you don't have to hang out every day to still consider each other friends.

Everyone has a life that they're trying to balance, especially after high school. People work (maybe even more than one job) and go to school. Some have to take care of family members or do things for their family. Some people are focusing on themselves. Some have relationships to maintain. Whatever it is, we all have lives that we're trying to balance.

We all want to have fun, but school, work, and our families are the priorities.

Even if they're out hanging with other people, it doesn't mean that they don't want to hang out with you. Free time is served on a "first come, first serve" basis. It's hard to balance hanging out with multiple people.

I also learned that it doesn't matter the number of friends you have. What truly matters is the quality. Ask yourself, "Who's there for me when I really need someone?" The people who are there for you when you really need someone to talk to are your TRUE friends.

It's not easy to be there for someone and make them feel better. If they offer to listen or give advice, they care!

I know that it may feel like you have no friends sometimes, but that's not true. Life after high school is hard at times. You're an adult. You have to do adult things and take care of yourself first.

You have to realize that everyone has a busy schedule and not all your friends' schedules will align with yours, but that's okay! You don't need to hang out with friends every day to consider them your friends. What truly matters is if they are there for you when you need them.

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