Everybody has a way they learn important life lessons; some people read articles, some people talk to their role models, but I watch "Sex and The City." Before you think I'm superficial and shallow, I think you should know that "Sex and The City" teaches confidence, female women empowerment, and other important lessons that I would never have learned in the classroom.
If any of you have not seen "Sex and The City," I will pity you and explain one of the most important lessons I've learned from the series. This lesson is: there is a serious problem with being vanilla. What is "being vanilla," you may ask? The easiest way to explain is that vanilla is simple. Everyone likes vanilla. How can you not like vanilla ice cream? If you don't like it with caramel, you can just put chocolate syrup on it and the flavor completely changes. Vanilla is whatever you want it to be.
In this show, Carrie Bradshaw is in love with Big and she has been for 10 years. It is clear to the audience that they are meant to be together; however, through the seasons, they break up and make up so many times that Carrie and Big go separate ways towards the middle of the series. Basically, Big could not commit to Carrie; however, Big marries some west-end, pearl-wearing, classic Audrey Hepburn type. If anyone knows the show, they know Carrie is none of those things. Carrie is clueless, hardworking, complicated and kind of a hot mess, if you will.
In one scene, Carrie explains that his new wife is vanilla ice cream. She's simple, classic and everyone likes it. Well, Carrie and I are not vanilla ice cream. We stand for something, we do crazy things that some people may not agree with, we talk too much and don't always have control of our emotions. I think not being vanilla is the best thing a girl could be. I think we should be ourselves, and if people don't like it, then they shouldn't matter. Basically, if a guy leaves you for some vanilla girl, he probably wasn't man enough to handle your rocky road self. The problem with vanilla is simple. Why would you want to be well-liked if they don't actually like the real you? Why would you want to be plain? I say we just be ourselves and if someone doesn't like it, they don't have to buy your ice cream.
Now, nothing was wrong with Natasha (vanilla ice cream lady). She wasn't mean. She wasn't ugly. However, her marriage to Big lasted only a few months. Big got bored with vanilla and, in the end, was begging for Carrie to come back.
Vanilla may seem easy-going and the smart choice; however, who would want to spend the rest of their lives eating boring vanilla ice cream?
