There is a pressure to classify everything in our lives as “failure” or “success.” Because of this, I identified failure as one of my biggest fears in life. My self-esteem fluctuated based on the amount of failures and successes that occurred in my life. As a result, my self-worth was contingent on my performance in the different roles that I played, which convinced me to believe that I was a good person if I succeed and a bad person if I failed.

However, my definition of failure changed when I began to view failure through a different lens. I began to see failure as a necessary step stone towards greater success. It became apparent that you only fail if you do not try because you then cheat yourself from opportunities to learn and grow.

It’s easier said than done, so here are a few steps that have helped me and can help you redefine your failure:

Don’t be afraid to admit that you failed.

There is no way out of it. Failure can be embarrassing and painful to confront. The first step is admitting that, well, you failed, and that it’s okay. It’s necessary to acknowledge your failures, learn from them, and move forward.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions and seek guidance.

From my experience, I have found that managers, professors, and peers prefer you ask questions to clarify any confusion and miscommunication then not asking at all. People in these roles want you to succeed and want to help you learn. Behind every successful person is a handful of mentors that helped them get there.

Have no doubts and know that you can.

I know it’s cliche to say, but really “anything is possible.” Don’t allow the fear of failure to keep you from pursuing your goals. Don’t let one failure discourage you from trying again and again and again.