I'm going to be blunt: Nicholas Sparks has been lying to you. Guys aren't always going to sweep you off your feet or write you 365 letters for every day of the year (there's no post on Sundays, Noah). No one is going to be perfect, but you need to find someone who loves you perfectly.
Real life isn't as Tumblr might make it out to be. Your partner might not know your favorite kind of tea. He might not know your favorite book. He might not be as deep as you'd like. He might not study every inch of your face to know every freckle. But we need to acknowledge that even if he isn't some blogger's version of perfection, he's probably trying pretty hard for you.
We are stuck in this era of "#relationshipgoals" where we gauge our relationships and our worth off of pictures shared on Facebook and Twitter. These seemingly "perfect", and generally attractive couples flaunt matching Jordans and outfits; they always seem so much happier than you. If he doesn't surprise you with a dress on your bed and a note saying "Dinner's at 5, put this on", you might start to wonder what is wrong with your relationship, why don't you deserve to get presents like this?
Some social media leads us to believe that if you aren't matching your partner to a T, your relationship isn't good enough. If you aren't happy and smiling every day, you aren't "goals".
We can't measure our relationships compared to those of people online; people we have never met. Who knows how often they fight or how compatible they are. Just because they look good together does not mean they are good together.
We cannot use Facebook or Twitter famous couples to measure our own relationship's success. You can tell if you are succeeding in a relationship if at the end of the day, even if it was a rough one, you still think they're pretty great, and you could live without them, but you don't want to. You don't gauge it by the things he got you for Valentine's Day, or if he stood in the rain to profess his love to you. You assess your relationship by your own standards, not by society's.
