Have you ever been disliked by someone for a petty reason? I think most people have, especially during their freshman year of college. Freshman year is a time to meet new people and unfortunately, with the good relationships that blossom, there are always those people who find a reason to dislike you. Recently, I have been dealing with this petty hatred, and it has bothered me a ton. Most of the time if people hate for no reason, it usually their problem. If you are just existing in your world, minding your own business then it is just them who are wasting their energy.
I find that a good way to distract myself from petty negativity is to radiate the opposite. The one way to truly defeat negativity is through positivity. There are so many ways to be a source of positive energy like giving someone a genuine compliment or simply saying thank you to someone that holds the door for you. Also holding the door for someone is just a little thing to bring positivity to your day and distract from the pettiness that most girls experience.
Another tip for dealing with pettiness is killing the people with kindness. I know it is difficult, but my dad always says that it is so much easier to be nice than to be mean and I agree. Killing people with kindness is not smothering with compliments or being overly nice. It is just simple and considerate gestures that garner respect. If someone hates you for a petty reason, do not give them an actual reason to hate you. It is so painless to just smile at someone, rather than come up with some clever way to insult the person.
One thing to understand, especially in college, is that not everyone is going to like you. That is just how the world is. This is sort of difficult thing to grasp because who likes to think that people hate them? Not a lot. Whenever I start to freak out about people disliking me I just put it in perspective. I may have a few people who dislike me for extremely petty reasons, however, I have many supportive friends whos' positivity blocks out all of the negativity. It is all about ignoring the haters and embracing those who love. Do you think Kim Kardashian (the Queen) mopes in the name of the hate she receives? No, because she knows that so many more people love her rather than hate her. Be like Kim.
In conclusion, be yourself and if people hate you, it is probably their issue. Kill the haters with kindness, don't give them a serious reason to hate you. Also do not dwell on what the small group of haters say, because there are most likely a bigger group people who love you!
