In life, you are going to come across someone who doesn’t like you. It happens to everyone. You can be the most adorable and fluffy puppy, but there are always people who don’t like dogs. That is just how it is. Usually, you can figure out why someone prefers to avoid your company, but sometimes you will not even know why someone doesn’t like you.
I have a very smart professor that once said, "If many people have a problem with you, something is probably wrong with you. But if it is only one person, it is probably something wrong with them." So, if this is an issue you are running into often, then maybe you need to do some soul searching and find out what you can do to change whatever you might be doing to offend those around you. However, if you are only having an issue with one person, keep these things in mind:
Don’t let him or her put you down.
Sometimes, the person who doesn’t like you will come right out and say it. He or she will post rude comments on your Facebook or try to badmouth you to others around the two of you. But you cannot let it get to you.
Your real friends will know what is going on, and their opinions are the ones you should care about, not the opinion of some mean-spirited person who already has a solid opinion of you.
He or she just doesn’t like you, and if you don’t know why, there is not much you can do about it. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Let the comments roll off of you, but also,
Don’t fuel his or her fire.
If he or she is saying rude things to you, don’t respond. Don’t stoop to his or her level. Let his or her comments be a reflection of his or her character, not yours.
If you don’t know why he or she doesn’t like you, don’t give him or her a reason.
It is best to just ignore them, but if you have to work with them or see them often,
Kill them with kindness.
The saying that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar comes to mind in this situation. Even if he or she is always nasty to you, if you are consistently kind, maybe one day they'll come around.
And if not, even the Bible has words about being kind to each other. Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Pretty much, it is saying if you have nothing nice to say, if it is not something that builds those around you up, do not say it.
Judgment Day comes for all, and don’t let his or her attitude mess up your slate.
Successful people build each other up.
It’s a quote that has been circulating around the Internet from an unknown source. “Successful people build each other up. They motivate, inspire and push each other. Unsuccessful people just hate, blame and complain.”
If someone is coming after you for seemingly no reason, there is a good chance that he or she is not doing well in their own life. Maybe he or she is unhappy in their own career and believes you have a better position than them. Or, maybe he or she envies certain events in your life. Have you won an award he or she did not? Did you just get a promotion? Just keep your head up and build the people around you up. Because in the end, people around you will figure out what is going on, and they will support you for acting like the bigger person.
Some people are just not nice, and you cannot help that. Remember who you are, and continue doing what makes you great. Others will catch on, and after everything, his or her actions will show everyone just the type of person he or she is, and your actions will show them who you are.
