Had a little too much fun with men?
Kind of ran with too many crews?
Kind of creep a little too much, and it caught up with you?
Hear the rumors about you, but ignore them?
What about just had sex with a few of the WRONG men and automatically got labeled as a hoe?
Being labeled a hoe could conflict with a having a great relationship with somebody, or even make women feel that a man would not see the good in them if he knew the rumors. Worse, it could make her feel unworthy to be with a good man.
Well luckily, I am here to tell you if you have a hoe sheet…
IT CAN BE DELETED!
BUT The only person who can delete your ho sheet is YOU!
The moment you stop owning the title of a hoe, is when your hoeness can be deleted. Yeah, I know, the past can’t be deleted, but how you feel about who you are and what you represent can! Understand that you had a previous life, you lived it sexually, but it doesn’t show the essence of who you are as a person. It’s up to you to hold yourself accountable for the things you’ve done, be fine with it, and move along!
Guys gossip more than women! Trust me! You think that one night you had with somebody was a secret, understand that somebody knows! Just like we tell our friends, they tell theirs! The only thing we can control as women is what we respond to the comments! What we think of ourselves! If one or a few men degrade the value of you, trust me there will be one man that see the greatness in you.
When I sat in my bed writing this blog, I thought about how rumors can affect the lives of women. The way they think, act and respond can be because of nasty rumors. They uphold their given reputation by acting as such and by believing they are what people say they are.
As women we can choose to care about what men say about us, or we can understand we are human and we TOO make mistakes similar to men. Society, AKA men and sometimes women, puts so much pressure on women to have it all together. They expect us to have a strict dignity about ourselves and expect us to automatically know our self-worth, like we came out of the womb with instruction! We are supposed to be conservative, be strong, be feminine and sexual objects!
I mean ladies, let’s be real!
To dodge being labeled a whore, we have to be damn near perfect! Don’t dare make a mistake! But the men who want these type of women, cheat with the exact opposite! This type of woman a man will go as to far to CHEAT with!
We shouldn’t allow ourselves to be judged by hypocrites- the type of hypocrites that preach one thing and go after another! We are not perfection!
As for women, who are holier than thou, save it! Because it’s my belief that every woman has had a hoe moment!
Just because you disguised your hoe moments by being someone’s girlfriend every 4 months doesn’t make you any better than the woman who decided to bypass the bs and just get what she wanted out of it! We are ALL learning at the same level! Please don’t judge!
So never in life let a man determined your value, because what he calls you is what he enjoys- period! You can sit at home and be conservative and whatever else that suppose to signify a good respectable woman, or you can be yourself! Whatever that means for you!
Yes, hoeness can be deleted by that special one. There will always be someone out there that is willing to love you despite everything someone has said about you. Being a victim of hoe calling doesn’t necessarily means you were a hoe. Men call women hoes based on the smallest thing. These type of men don’t think about how they could ruin our reputation by their lack of understanding of who we are.
Trust me, I’ve been called a hoe. Whether I was one or not, I was being called a hoe based on something they heard or one incident they seen.
Being friendly can even make you labeled as a ho.
IT DOESNT MATTER!
So take your ho sheet and shred it. Hell, it’s almost 2017!
New year,
NEW YOU!
