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To The Girl Who Was Told Her Standards Are Too High

They aren't.

Hailey Palmer
Sep 17, 2017
University of Central Florida
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To The Girl Who Was Told Her Standards Are Too High
Hailey Palmer

To the girl who was told her standards are too high,


They aren't.

Keeping high standards for yourself and future boyfriends/husbands is not a bad thing. It is incredibly easy to get wrapped up in the sweet talking, cookie cutter, quiff haired boy who slides into your DM's. I'm proud of you for being strong, and I want you to know that you are not alone.

High standards do not mean you are snobby or prudish. It means you respect yourself. Respecting your worth and value is important in today's dating cesspool. You have value. You are loved. Your opinions matter. And you deserve a man that treats you right.

It is crazy how people want you to find a guy that shares similar interests, but as soon as you say you want a man who loves Jesus, red flags go up? And you are told you are being unreasonable? Why can't religion be a common interest? If faith is one of the things you value most in life, then why wouldn't you want to share that with someone you love most in life?

People may mock you, and some days it may feel like the right guy may never come along, but keep faith. Somewhere out there, there is a guy looking for a girl like you. A guy who wants to honor your need for personal prayer. A guy who wants to hold your hand in Church because he is proud to stand by your side. A guy who wants to love you through the good times and the bad times.

Wanting a guy who is kind, loves Jesus more than you, and respects your feminine genius and dignity is a good thing. In fact, I wish more women would keep their standards sky high.

We, as women, need to remember that we do not live our lives to impress or satisfy the men around us. If we choose to be picky, dress modestly, and guard our hearts, it is okay. Sometimes, we may need to remind those around us that we do not do it to help the "impulsive" men around. We do it because we respect ourselves and want to be valued for our smarts and gifts rather than our bodies.

Girl, I am proud of you and I want you to know that you are loved. Your worth does not come from all of the men who haven't loved you in the past. You are more valuable than any pickup line or note a man could leave. Your identity comes from a God who loves you unconditionally. He loves you when you feel your best, and He loves you on the days when you look in the mirror and just aren't feeling it.

You are not being unreasonable. Your standards are not too high. And I PRAY that eventually, your family will stop asking where your boyfriend is on both Thanksgiving and Christmas!


Your Solidarity Sister,

Hailey

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