Why My High School Sweetheart Became My College Sweetheart

Why My High School Sweetheart Became My College Sweetheart

And why I listened to my heart rather than anyone else.
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Leaving for college spurs advice from everyone you know. Thoughts on majors, behavior and classes flood in from parents, teachers and friends. One topic that seems universal? High school sweethearts. Movies, TV and reality all tell horror stories of girls who ruined their freshman year by carrying their high school relationship to college with them. They portray the most important person in your life as a weight, someone who will only drag you down. This may be true for some, but to me, my high school relationship made my first year of college even better.

Freshman year is hard. You leave behind friends and family, and the first few months are uncomfortable. When I felt lost or lonely, there was one constant in my life. My boyfriend of three years was still with me. While we may not go to the same school, I had something steady and reliable that carried on from high school to college, making everything about the transition suck a little less. He became one less person who had to completely get to know me. There was a person in my life who still knew my past, but faced every minute of the future with me. In a sea of strangers, introductions and icebreakers fill the space that easy conversation and inside jokes once filled. One call to my boyfriend reassured me that I there were people out there who knew everything about me.

More importantly, college strengthened our relationship in a way I never imagined. Distance is not easy, but we learned it was worth it. In order to move away from someone you love and embark on a new journey, your relationship must rely on faith and trust in each other. That's exactly what grew as we spent a year six hours apart. A long-distance relationship can bring sorrow and loneliness, but it also brings insurmountable joy. The moment when you finally reunite with someone you've been apart from for so long is like a scene from a Nicholas Sparks movie. It's all hugs and laughter and pure happiness! That feeling is unlike any other in the world. Every never-ending drive or tearful goodbye disappears when you get to spend a few hours together.

So, feel free to listen to people when they warn you, "Don't let your high school boyfriend drag you down!" I, however, advise you to hold on to them with all of your strength. Throughout my freshman year, my boyfriend was my rock. He was a little piece of home, no matter how many miles apart, just a phone call away. He taught me to stay true to myself, even in an atmosphere of change, and that love is worth every mile in between. My high school sweetheart became my college sweetheart, and I wouldn't trade our experience for the world.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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Is Long-Distance Worth it in College?

Summer is upon us and you and your boo must part ways. Do you continue the relationship and try long distance or do you give up?

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Finals are finished, the stress is gone, and it is now summertime.

Sweet, sweet summertime. It's also time to go back to your hometown and leave your boo. If you're currently in a relationship and have to part ways for the summer, do you continue to work things out long distance, or let go of the relationship? Having been in a previous long distance relationship for two years, I want to offer the real truth about long distance for those who are wondering.

Obviously, long distance relationships are HARD. Especially in college. It is important to have a serious talk with your partner, and weigh out the pros and cons. How far apart will you be? Plane rides or road trips? How many times a month do you want to plan to see each other? Do you both trust one another?

I do not think long distance is impossible for two college students. If you care about someone enough, you will make it work no matter what. My advice is, if you have the slightest amount of doubt, maybe long distance wouldn't be the best thing for you and your significant other.

You must prepare for lonely days and only communicating through cell phones. FaceTime will be your best friend. Send each other care packages, or things that remind you of them. It's important to let your person know that you're still there and that you still care for them. You'll also have to get used to doing things alone. Find a new hobby and make some new friends. It is crucial to get comfortable being by yourself, because you can no longer call your partner and do every single thing with them.

Something that always helped me was scheduling days to see each other. We would mark them in our calendars and count down. Technology is so advanced today, long distance relationships are way easier than they've ever been. My boyfriend and I would schedule "FaceTime dates", which were specific times we would free up for each other to talk. We'd also watch movies together on Netflix! We'd find a movie to watch, start the movie at the same time, and text each other about the movie while watching it.

I'm the type of person who sees things in black and white, however. I think that if the connection is strong enough and two people care about each other enough, long distance shouldn't be an issue. We're adults now, and if you cannot consistently communicate with someone and manage to make time for them, then maybe you are not ready for a long distance relationship. Long distance requires maturity, patience, and good time management. Don't listen to the nay-sayers that tell you it isn't possible. Anything is possible for two people that love and care for each other.

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