HEY Guess What: Staying In Is The New Going Out

HEY Guess What: Staying In Is The New Going Out

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Millennials are in a bit of a rut. Between work, class, and balancing friendships, relationships, and family time – oh, and not to mention the stress of building one’s personal brand – time management can be tough. And not so surprisingly, nights out can feel more like another to-do task on your schedule rather than an #instaworthy occasion.

Throwback to 90s style Carrie Bradshaw, the Gossip Girl cast or anyone, really, from reality TV – side eyeing you Whitney Port – when 9 to 5’ers appeared as a breeze, and a day’s work was done upon sliding into a booth at the bar, Cosmo after Cosmo.

One of my favorite online health and wellness mags, Well + Good, deemed the current staying-in culture as one of this year’s biggest wellness trends. So what does that mean for the rest of us? Babes, it’s time to get your Pinterest-worthy bed-scape into action. (Yes, I’m making BEDSCAPE a thing.) F*ck FOMO and read on for three amazing ways to get cozy & say sayonara to Saturday-night guilt. Dinner, drinks, side-hustles and an a.m. 5K ritual just don’t blend well with tequila ‘til dawn, and that’s TOTALLY OK! Read on for details…


1. Love Thy Self First

You know how on a plane, you’re supposed to put on your own mask BEFORE helping anyone else – like, even your kids? This is sort of a less dramatic version of that. You can’t be the best version of yourself if you’re surviving on dehydrated, over-caffeinated, sleepless nights. Even though it’s really cute if your bf/gf takes you to dinner and a movie, it’s up to YOU to ensure you’re on your A Game, and feel awesome whilst doing whatever it is you do. Take the time to treat yo’ self, and do the things you love that maybe you put off during the week due to a demanding work sched, personal life or, (eek) both. Basically: read that book. Take that bath. Watch Big Little Lies, sans interruptions. Do you.

2. A Little Spring Cleaning...

If you haven’t already, it may be time to take a few nights in to KonMari your lifestyle. Remember the all that hype about The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up? An amazing book for the messy-at-heart, but also, a real eye-opener about what ‘sparks joy’ in our lives and what just weighs us, and our space, down. Perhaps, start with your dresser, your pantry, whatever – and then take the practice a bit more figuratively and figure out the people, jobs, or associations that are simply not ‘sparking joy’ anymore. In other words, let that sh*t go. You’ll feel much happier when you do, and those nights spent folding sweaters in a vertical formation will be worth it – pinky swear.

3. "Stay In Your Own Lane"

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Sound familiar? It’s only natural that after consuming beach vacay after beach vacay, and everything in-between brunch vibes and #relationshipgoals that you’re going to feel, well, sh*tty – even if your life isn’t. Staying in, practicing self-care and just straight-up relaxing doesn’t have to be the soap opera it was made out to be many moons ago. Yes, you may be passing up on a few Rooftop Photo-Ops, but as writer for Elite Daily Chris Riotta, says, “Toga parties, rooftop parties, penthouse parties — they all sound like good ideas until you’ve already experienced one (or nine) of them.” Replace FOMO with JOMO, (Joy Of Missing Out ha!) and enjoy high-quality moments with your real friends, over really cheap wine and underwhelming movies, because, hey, it’s not only a fun time but good for your health.

Studies show social media networks are causing depression in millennials; and constantly consuming other people’s lives has a negative effect on our health. So suit-up in your fave onesie-of-the-moment, brew a cup of tea, and call up your people - doctor’s orders.

Of course, a night out has its glamour, and if you’re in the mood, pass the bubbly. But when you’re not, no need to trek out in a mini & heels, just because you want to make everyone else happy or have a desperate fear of FOMO.

To my fellow –stayer-inners, I hope this reaffirms your choice to choose cold brew over a cold brew if you feel like it. And to my chronic goer-outers, I look forward to your #cozy facemask selfies in the near future.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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8 Things To Do With Your Girl Friends When You DON'T Want To Drink On A Friday Night

Friday nights don't have to be all about drinking or just staying in your room.


While college may seem like the wildest time of everyone's life, not everyone drinks and not everyone wants to go out every weekend. With this in mind, there are so many other things to do with friends, even by yourself, that doesn't involve you sitting in your room at night.

1. Have a sleepover

Text your best friends, get plenty of snacks, and don't forget your robe or fuzzy socks! Order pizza and binge-watch your favorite TV show. Who doesn't love a good girl's night in?

2. Go to the movies

TBH, I'm the one percent of the population who still hasn't seen Endgame.

3. Go bowling/ice skating/escape room/something kinda active

With a group of friends, it can be a pretty cheap and fun Friday night.

4. Board game night

Board game marathons are the best. I'm pretty sure my friends only have Cards Against Humanity, but board games are definitely worth the investment.

5. Try that one place you've always wanted to go!

I cannot tell you the number of times I've said 'I want to go there' and still haven't been to said place. When you don't want to go out on a Friday night, hit up that one spot you've been DYING to go.

6. Have a dessert party with friends

Have your friends bring a dessert, or go out to a restaurant and split them! It's a great way to chat, catch up, and enjoy some sugar!

7. Make a fort

I haven't made a fort as a kid, but you can bet I'm gonna drag my roommates out of their rooms and do this next time I'm bored.

8. Cook or bake something new

Try out that new recipe (or a few) that you've just pinned on Pinterest.

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