Hey everyone! I know it's been a while since I've written an article. This article will shed some light on the topic of friends of the opposite sex, my experience and opinion on it. Maybe we share the same opinion and maybe not.
"Oh my God you guys look so cute together", "You guys would be perfect together".These have to be the most irritating lines to hear when you're out with one of your guy friends. I have about 3 guys I actually consider friends (they know who they are) and no matter what I always have someone ask me if we were dating or not. I honestly don't see any of them that way and never will. They all have girlfriends too and I'm always cool with their girlfriends because they all understand that I'm just a friend.... or maybe they just aren't insecure and actually trust their guys but whatever.
Another thing I highly dislike is when my family tries to tell me to "be careful" before people start to think we're dating or like each other....no seriously this happens. I gave my friend malik a hug one time and my grandmother broke it up and said no touching. She made it seem like we were kissing or something when we really just haven't seen each other in months. I honestly don't care what people think I'd just rather them not assume, it makes things awkward..
I know a lot of people say, "well you know it always starts out as being friends". I'm not too sure about the validity in that statement because that's a little weird but it probably had happened in some case. A lot of people feel that you can't be close friends with the opposite sex without either parties' feelings coming in to play. This may happen to a lot of people, it happened to a friend of mine. She started liking this guy more than a friend but he didn't feel the same so it made the friendship kind of fall apart because she was hurt that he didn't see her that way and he felt awkward. It can happen vice versa too. Maybe you should be friends with a person before you date him but that should be a mutual understanding so no one is left hurt and no friendships are ruined.
Personally that hasn't happened to me.... That I can remember. My guy friends are like my brothers, we pick on and make fun of each other and others, call each other names. We make plans to go to the movies, mall, out to eat, sky zone etc. I love them all the same. Like I said before it's never awkward with their girlfriends, hey if they want to come they can tag along. I don't mind at all( as long as they don't have me 3rd wheeling, I refuse).
So don't assume that, because we are hanging out all the time, that we're a thing because 9/10 we aren't, and it's annoying. I love my guy friends like family and it will stay that way simply because I'm not looking for a relationship especially not with guys who already have girlfriends and considers me "one of the guys".
Thanks for reading!!
