Having Patience In A World Where Everyone But You Seems To Have Everything

Having Patience In A World Where Everyone But You Seems To Have Everything

Aren't you supposed to have your degree, a wedding, a career, and a baby all by 25? Wrong.


In a world that seemingly has everything, it is hard to have patience. As you scroll through Instagram, all you see are pictures of rings, babies, ultrasounds, weddings, graduation, new jobs, new houses, new cars, etc, etc. Basically, perfection. You see everyone you know having it all.

But maybe you only have one of those things. Or maybe you have none of those things.

It is easy to feel inferior to your peers. Maybe you're gonna graduate late because you changed your major, or maybe you didn't get to go to college. Maybe you have a baby, but not the perfect family. Maybe you have a great career, college degree, and your own place, but feel lonely with no one significant in your life.

It is all OK. You don't have to be where everyone else is. You don't even have to be close.

There is no official timeline for life, no matter how much it might seem like it. Life is individualized. Life is specific to each person. Do things at your own pace and get there when you get there.

And as for social media? Build people up. Congratulate them on their accomplishments and wish them well, but do not be jealous. Do not let envy get the best of you. The seemingly perfect person still has goals that they have yet to achieve. No one has it all figured out, no matter what their Instagram tells the world.

Patience is key. It may seem like now that you will never have that dream job, you'll never finish school, you'll never meet the man or woman of your dreams, but you're wrong. There is a plan for you, larger and more amazing than you can fathom. You need only to trust and take life day by day.

Do what you can each day to better yourself and get closer to your goals.

All it takes is one step because you have to take one step before you can take another. So have patience, and know that your time is coming.

My brother's (@ MooreMotivated) favorite saying is Get Better Today, and I have found it to be so helpful. That is all you really can do. Just get better today. You can't do anything about tomorrow until it gets here, so worry about today. However, don't waste a day because each one is a chance to better yourself.

Take a deep breath. Be proud of yourself. Enjoy life right where your at, because that is right where you need to be.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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If You Fill Every Minute Of Your Schedule With Work, You'll Feel Discouraged, Not Accomplished

Our feelings have more power than we think.


When we start doing work, we set out with the point of trying to get it done. I personally set time brackets in which I do a certain amount of work. In this, I assume how much time something will take me and work as efficiently as I can to finish in the allotted time bracket.

However, once in a while, the work takes me much longer than anticipated and I become frustrated. I cannot get the questions right or there is just too much work to make sense of. All I want to do is give up and eat ice cream and even if I do this, I feel anxious about the fact that my work is not done. I feel stressed and that doing any type of work is of no use because I can't do it anyway. How can I get out of this funk? Sometimes I think I never will. Or is it that I don't want to?

All of us have had a moment of hopelessness about school, friends, or just life in general. I think that the best way to get out of it is to step back from the environment. When I am stuck on an Aleks problem (chemistry online homework) and want to scream at the computer, I just leave my desk and go for a walk. Trying to clear your mind of all the frustration and stress that is building up is necessary to see things from a fresh point of view.

We often are blinded by the frustration we feel and that disables our ability to take a breath and just work calmly. Feeling the overwhelming emotions makes us lose track of all the good things we have and if we allow it to, it will consume us for much longer than we imagined. Take breaks with your work and leave time for yourself. If you fill every minute of your schedule with work, of course, you will feel discouraged. You will be burned out. Every time you notice yourself becoming angry, do something to calm yourself down. Our anger has the power to destroy us, but only if we let it.

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