Have you ever had a best friend you practically saw every week, if not every day? You had set plans for a certain time or a certain day, and no matter what came up, that was your day and you could count on that constant in your life.
Of course, this only happens for a little while, because eventually you both get big girl/boy jobs, or go back to school, or something else unforeseeable happens that throws a wrench in your unnofficial-official plans. You don't get upset, because this kind of friendship is different from others. It can withstand time and distance and opposite schedules. You push each other to be better, for themselves, even if that means taking away from your quality time. This kind of friendship does not measure distance or how often you see each other as a way to measure how much you both care for each other.
Because you know, no matter what, you could show up to their house in tears at midnight and they would let you in, make you a cup of tea, and help you sort yourself out. They wouldn't judge or kick you out, or deny you of the comfort you need, that only their kind of friendship can supply.
In an adult friendship, it admittedly gets a million times harder to get together and catch up. It can be hard going days without talking to the person who knows you better than most, and has become like family. It's hard to think back on all the times you hung out, not a care in the world, not knowing the last time you did something like that would be the last time you ever hung out without feeling the impending doom of all your adult responsibilities.
Now, instead of one on ones, it's a double date night with their partners, and it's a different kind of good. It's a different kind of happy. It's a different kind of content. You both are in totally different places in your life, but you still manage to laugh the same laugh, joke the same jokes, and create amazing new memories, totally different than the ones you've created before.
Sometimes, the good old days truly are good. But sometimes, not all the time, but sometimes, when you find your forever friend, no matter what happens or how things change, your friendship adapts and grows with the changes.
Yeah, you may not randomly call each other up to have an impromptu sleepover or beach days, but now you're going on hikes or job hunting or planning a wine and dinner night at each other's houses. Now, their S.O. become more like extensions of your best friend, and yours to them, too.
If you're lucky to have a forever friend, take the time right now to shoot them a text and tell them how thankful you are that they are in your life.
And to my amazing forever friend, thank you for being in mine. I love you infinitely.
