The crowd collectively gasps, staring at the person who just said that. No way!
The truth is... why would anybody care about whether or not a person chooses to lose their virginity?
In today's society, being a virgin at 18 is seen as rare, and sometimes, people don't even believe somebody if they say they're still a virgin. Teenagers today are so desensitized to the world that somebody would expect them to have had sex, done drugs, get drunk, which are usually considered adult activities. The truth is, my parents made sure that I didn't go out late, or be at my boyfriend's house for too long. Some parents don't care, some parents do, and some even care too much. It's not even really about parents caring; it's about the teenager caring too much about fitting in, or just wanting to get it out of the way.
Virginity is a social construct designed to bring you down, no matter what side of the spectrum you're on. If you're a virgin, you're seen as innocent. If you've had sex, you're seen as a "slut" or "player."
Teenagers constantly battle over these sorts of things, and it's confusing. What do you want a person to do? Not have sex? Have sex? Adolescents are confusing in this day and age. Even though both sides of the sexual spectrum (or sextrum, if you will), are subject to ridicule. If somebody's a virgin, however, they're pestered even more by their peers. But why? Why is it that being a virgin is such a big deal to people?
Being a virgin or having sex does not make you any less of a person. Though majority of people at 18 are having sex, not all people are; and that's okay. Why is it such a big deal to lose it? Mainly, it's the regret or awkwardness that may follow. One might lose it to the wrong person, or a stranger-- their preference is their preference, however. A person might be more comfortable losing it to a stranger whom they will never see again. On the contrary, another person might want to lose it to a good friend, or their significant other. It's perfectly normal for it to be awkward, as I'm told plenty of times. Some choose to wait until they're married to lose their virginity, for religious or personal reasons.
As for me, I'm waiting for the right time. I've always been waiting, and my virginity does not define me. I'm no less of a person for choosing to not have sex until I am ready. Like I said, one's preference is their own, and my preference is to wait for the right person at the right time. So hey, don't feel bad if you're still a virgin. It doesn't make you who you are.
Gifs are from The Breakfast Club. Seriously phenomenal movie. Watch it.
