Last summer while at an utterly boring internship, I searched and searched for a podcast on Spotify that would keep me from dying of complete boredom while scanning useless papers all day long. Never would I have imagined that I would find a podcast that would truly change my life.
"Guys We Fucked: The Anti-Slut Shaming Podcast" is a podcast basically all about sex. It's mostly female-oriented, but really all genders could benefit from what it said on this show. Krystyna Hutchinson and Corinne Fisher, both feminist stand-up comedians in their early 30s, host the show, and they bring on a new special guest for every episode.
Let me just start out by saying that these girls are absolutely hilarious! They take taboo topics like sexual assault, pedophilia, and abortion and they humanize them through comedy. They make these important subjects easy and comfortable to talk about.
The podcast started out as a way for Krystyna and Corinne to openly talk to their ex-boyfriends or sexual partners about their sexual and relationship related skills, and how they could improve in those areas.
Now, more than three years later, the podcast has turned into an advice/comedy/complete random shit show that openly talks about issues regarding sex, relationships, and being a woman.
This podcast couldn't have come into my life at a better time. At the time I was not sexually active at all, which made me feel really self-conscious as an adult, as a woman, and as a sexual person.
I will say, that this podcast is very NSFW (not safe for work), but I binged the fuck out of it during my three-week long internship. I will say it was pretty funny to hear people talking about fucking their boyfriend in the ass with a dildo while being surrounded by my coworkers.
This podcast allowed me to learn and become comfortable with topics like sex, sexual assault, rape, threesomes, anal, oral, open relationships, one night stands, tinder, masturbation, dildos, vibrators, fetishes, confidence, abortions, STDs, the gynecologist, sex work, porn, etc.
Listening to two girls talk about these subjects that I had never really had a way to talk about made me feel so free, and allowed me to become a confident sexual woman.
I think all genders, but especially females should listen to this podcast. Even if you're a conservative, not fucking until I'm married, anti-choice, anti-feminist lady. There is still so much you can learn from it.
The most important and relevant topic that they talk about on the podcast is the idea of shame.
They talk about how shame is a societal concept used in order to make people feel better about themselves. Shame doesn't really exist, it merely is just a projection of how other people feel about themselves, and it has affected women especially for thousands of years.
I want to encourage girls and women to listen to this podcast in order to understand that shame is bullshit. I wish I would've been told what I have learned from this podcast when I was in middle school and high school.
In middle school, I was sexually assaulted. I carried around so much shame with me because I was told that things that were done to me were bad and slutty, even though it wasn't my fault and I didn't want it.
In high school, I was sexually active but never had an outlet to talk about it because all we were taught in sex education was that abstinence is what makes you a good person.
Consensual sex is normal, natural, and healthy. It feels amazing and we shouldn't keep denying it to ourselves because of shame!
The idea that sex and shame are related is a totally fucked up society norm that needs to be broken!
The hosts of this podcast also have recently written a book called "Fucked: Being Sexually Explorative and Self-Confident in a World That is Screwed". It's an incredible book that should seriously be apart of sex ed curriculum. Read it! Give it to your sons and daughters! Give it to you significant other and your best friend!
Also, go see them live! They have started their 2018 comedy tour called "The Bidget Bishop Tour", which is named after the first women that were hanged in the Salem Witch Trials (talk about shame).
Check them out here on their website!
Listen to the podcast!!! Share it with your friends. It's available for free on Spotify, youtube, sound cloud, and probably a bunch of other places! They have a new episode every Friday and it's perfect for listening to the car on your way to work or class, or even during work or class (no shame here.)
