Almost everyone on this planet has heard a little voice in the back of their head at least once in their life. This little voice is small and squeaky and only has one goal in mind: to make you feel like shit. For some people, it usually comes around when you're having a bad day or are anxious for an upcoming situation. But, for others, this little voice can be constant and seems to never shut up. So, whether you only hear that voice every once in a blue moon or it seems like you hear it 24/7, here are some tried and true ways to quiet it:
1. Name your voice.
I know it sounds crazy at first, but once you name the voice, it makes it easier to separate it from your real and positive thoughts.
2. Talk back with logic.
Determine if what your voice is telling you is logical or not. Odds are, it's probably not.
3. Do the exact opposite of what your voice is telling you.
This is probably the most helpful thing.
4. Tell your friends and family about it.
Because that's the last thing it wants- to share you with other people.
5. Tell it to fuck off.
Isn't this what we say (or think!) to people who make us feel like crap? Treat your voice as if you were Regina George and the voice was the burn book.
6. Memorize a positive phrase or statement you can say to yourself on an especially negative day.
"I can do hard things." "Only I can control my thoughts."
7. Do something to distract you.
Go the gym, color, read a book, watch some Netflix, hang out with a friend.... the options are endless.
8. Plan something you can look forward to.
This can be a date night, movie night or a simple trip to get a mani/pedi.
9. Acknowledge the voice in your head as bad.
Sometimes the little voice in our head can trick us into thinking it's good, and the only thing that can get you through life. It's a HUGE manipulator, but you have to realize that first.
10. Make an appointment with a counselor or therapist.
Sometimes, it's nice to just have someone listen to you without judgement.
11. Try to figure out what in your life is making you think negative thoughts.
Are you getting enough sleep and eating nutritious food? Have you taken on more than you can chew?
12. Breathe deeply.
Take 3 big, deep breaths to calm yourself. It's actually a lot more helpful than you may think.
13. Understand that the voice in your head will probably never go away, but it can be quieted to a point where you only hear it once in a blue moon.
It will be okay, I promise.
Sometimes, it can be normal to have a negative thought every once in a while. Without them, we wouldn't have anything to drive us to strive for the best we can. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, so keep that in mind the next time you don't feel your best self!