Letter To Guys Who Don't Understand The Bachelorette

Dear Guys, To Impress Your Girl Turn on 'The Bachelor,' Get her A Bowl Of Ice Cream, And Buy Her A Dozen Roses

From brackets to fantasy leagues, I watch this show religiously.


From brackets to fantasy leagues, I watch this show religiously. Week in and week out, study the guys or the girls and predict who will win. This show is perfect for a hopeless romantic like me. The extravagant dates and the beautiful outfits with their makeup and hair done perfectly every time. This is definitely a show that guys should watch with their girlfriends to get some tips.

The Bachelor franchise is growing, now with Bachelor In Paradise and Bachelorette, with the finale just airing. It is always interesting to see who wins. Fans like me, start scouting the guys from week one and then predicting who will be chosen at the end. Some guys are only on for the drama each season and those people end up going on Bachelor in Paradise to create some more drama. It is very easy to predict who will end up in paradise in each season, well easy for those who watch the show religiously.

This show makes for a perfect girls night with a glass of wine in hand. With Bachelorette in the summer, bachelor in paradise during the fall semester and Bachelor during the spring semester, there is always something to make a Monday night a little easier. Watching all the cute couples come out of the show makes it even better because you can watch their relationship unfold from beginning to end. And at the end of the day, they are all "relationship goals" anyway because everytime you see a picture of them they look perfect together.

Entering a real relationship, well a relationship outside of the Bachelor world, but we all know Bachelor relationships are real too. Those relationships just set high expectations for girls and that is what they are looking for in their relationships. Guys, girls who watch all the Bachelor shows are hopeless romantics. They want you to plan cute dates. They want you to prove that chivalry is not dead. They want you to meet their family. They want you to take them home with you to see where you are from. They want to travel and explore the world with you. They want to make memories that last forever. They wanted to get treated like a princess. So if you don't understand why your girlfriend is obsessed with the show, think about that. Watch her reactions when the guys take her on dates and make romantic gestures because that is what she wants in her relationship.

Guys don't get me wrong watching sports is great and all but if you really want to impress your girl, turn on ABC on Monday nights, have a bowl of ice cream ready for her and a dozen roses.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.


I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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