Why Every Girl Needs A Guy Best Friend

Why Every Girl Needs A Guy Best Friend

You have a built in Bro-code and Womanspeak translator

Can a guy and girl actually just be friends? WOW, what a concept! The 21st century has liberated us in more than a million ways and finding a best friend from opposite gender is one of them. We can now chill with our friend without having being judged about it and more so, the sheer greatness of having them around.

Here are 15 reasons having a best friend of the opposite gender rocks so much:

1. A great wing (wo)man

Having a friend that can unsuspiciously tell the cute guy/girl you're interested in how cool and fun you are is just the tip of the iceberg to how great having a best friend of the opposite gender is.

2. They tell you how it is

They won't hold back if you're actually being dumb or overreacting. Your BFF would never put up with your BS and especially not someone else's BS toward you. They'll be straight forward with you and never sugar coat it. This type of honesty is such a blessing.

3. Great for when you need a +1 at an event

You can avoid being awkward and alone while attending all of your family’s get-togethers by taking your BFF with you. Additionally actually enjoying an otherwise boring event because you dragged your friend along.

4. Pretend significant other

Need someone to help you ward off that creepy guy or that clingy ex-girlfriend? Your best friend of the opposite gender does wonders to help with that.

5. Evaluating your love life from another perspective

It's always good to have an outside perspective. But it's especially beneficial to have an outside perspective from someone who might have a better understanding of your S/O's than you.

6. Help you set up good dates and avoid bad ones

Getting the inside scoop on that cute guy/gal BEFORE you become emotionally invested in them saves so much of your time and energy. Opposite gender BFF's are basically superheroes in disguise.

7. Bro-code and Womanspeak translators

It takes an advanced Ph.D. and at least 20 years of cultural immersion to speak these languages fluently. You might as well go to a native speaker than to try to figure it out on your own.

8. Platonic love is so important

Period. It's so important.

9. Questions you have about the opposite gender

Having a best friend of the opposite gender is basically a constant game of 20 questions. Why do you guys do this? Is it true that girls are...? Why on earth do you...? You get the idea. They're a gold mine for you unanswered questions of the opposite gender.

10. They'll be honest about how you look

hey can be blatantly truthful about it and it's beautiful. This is especially helpful for date preparations.

11. Advice on buying gifts for your S/O

Does he really want that watch? Would she actually wear this shirt?

12. The BEST hugs with no hidden agendas

There is just something special about a hug from your guy/gal pal. They always seem to be the perfect height and just smell so good. Plus, you don't have to worry about them only hugging you because they're interested in you.

13. Couple's Passes

Being broke (especially in college) and not using a couple's pass is like being rich and not buying fancy cheese. It's just something you do.

14. A glimpse of what you're getting yourself into

When you have already been best friends with someone from the opposite gender, you are better prepared for the disaster of dating. Girls are crazy and boys are dumb. You'll have a bit of a lead.

15. And of course ... The marriage pact

The legendary pact that if you're both single (or even if you're not) that you'll get married and have a beautiful life together. And hey, if it worked out for Chandler and Monica it could work for you.

Now go out there and get yourself a BFF of the opposite gender!

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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I've Had Feelings For My Best Friend For Years, And I'm Still Not Ready To Address Them

I'm not sure he even has the slightest idea, even friendship wise, how important he is to me.


A lot of times when people say they have a "secret," what they really mean is they've only told a few, strategically selected close people in their lives.

What I mean by secret is, I've only told my closest friends about these unsettled feelings I've had for four years, for the first time this past week.

When you tell someone your feelings, especially if it's someone that has no idea, and plays a crucial part in your everyday life. Someone who has seen you bawl your eyes out in agony, cry tears of joy, and just overall knows way more about you than anybody should, it is definitely important to weigh the odds.

Odds are, it won't work out.

Odds are, they don't feel the same.

Odds are, you lose one of the most important people in your life and you'll never be able to rekindle the connection in the same way again, and that just fucking sucks.

There's a lot of reasons why I haven't revealed my feelings to him. The biggest reason is that just because I like someone doesn't mean I want to be with them. I've let go of some of the best connections I've ever had because I knew I couldn't deliver the type of love and attention they truly deserved. And in this case, I just don't feel like I could ever be as great of a lover to him, as he could potentially be to me. I don't think he wouldn't feel the same, I just don't think it can ever work out, at least not at this moment.

And I'll tell you why.

We're both growing and just starting to be the people who we always wanted to be. We're both creators, artists, in different crafts. He inspires me now more than he ever has in our friendship. He has become my confidant and holds such a high value in my life. I'm not sure he even has the slightest idea, even friendship wise, how important he is to me. I don't think that when we're diving into exploring who we are, that a romantic connection will help either of our growths. And for the both of us, I want to be selfish and put ourselves before whatever connection could ever grow from this in the future or not.

We're both dating. Not to mention, know a lot of details about each other's dating lives and history. And there are some things both of has said about our dating lives that makes it impossible for us to ever work currently. For example, traveling is something that has always been important to me. I love connecting with people I wouldn't otherwise meet unless I was at the right time and the right place, and he is currently having this same realization. The realization that someone local probably isn't going to cut it for us. And if I told you how local he lived, he would know, but I guess that doesn't matter anymore. So, I'll tell you this: the proximity between us is closer than the word local.

And lastly, we're both not ready to settle down. I just can't picture us playing house and pretending like we are totally OK with being with each other for the rest of our lives, like tomorrow. I know that telling my best friend about my feelings doesn't mean I have to marry them, but the truth is, I see him being in my life for years to come, whether he's waiting for me at the end of the aisle, or in the front row crying because he's so happy I found that type of bond with another human.

Even though I get a little cringed when I hear him talk about that girl he fucked on vacation, and even though every part of me melts when I hear him say how important I am to them, I just don't think now is the right time. And even if he reads this, and knows the truth, I'll still not be ready to do anything about these unsettled feelings. So until then, if you're reading this I want you to know a couple of things I never say enough:

Your warmth has always inspired me.

You never let me sit and dwell on the negative and I couldn't thank you enough for that.

Your confidence to do whatever you want, makes me want it for myself too.

Your guidance, long talks for hours, and laughs in between both of our tears will always have a permanent home in my heart, and influence on who I am.

You are the sweetest, kindest person I have ever come across, without even trying.

You live so authentically and honestly, I am forever thankful I even get to call you one of my closest friends.

And even though there are tears in my eyes as I finish writing this, know that I'll always love you no matter what role you fill in my life.

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