How Greek Life Has Changed My Life At Delaware

How Greek Life Has Changed My Life At Delaware

​The actions of the few should not speak for the many.

Sure, we all hear the news and see how more and more often Greek Life has such a major stigma around it. We only ever hear about the bad, we rarely hear about the good.

When I first started the recruitment process in February of this year, I had absolutely no idea what to expect. I didn’t know anything about any of our sororities on campus and I went into this process completely oblivious to anything that had been said by anyone about Delaware’s Greek Life.

I think that going in with an open mind like that truly helped me to find my home. Meeting so many girls throughout the recruitment process was eye opening; we are all so similar yet so different at the same time.

Now that I’ve joined a sorority, every sorority sister has one thing in common no matter who they are; we’re all sisters. This is a huge community on our campus and all of us support each other through both social and philanthropic events which is such an amazing thing for all of us to come together no matter which sorority we’re from.

We’ve all seen movies and television shows that depict sororities as this awful concept. There’s such a stigma around it that most girls come into college not even knowing if they want to rush based on what they’ve heard throughout their lives. When I got to Delaware, I really didn’t think that I was going to rush. I didn’t think that I would fit in with any of the sororities because according to movies and television shows that I had seen growing up, I wasn’t the “typical sorority girl”.

Let me clear something up for everyone, there is no “typical sorority girl”. Sure, we all have things in common, we’re all 18-23 year old girls. But you cannot simply group all of us into one personality type, we’re so much more than that.

Throughout middle school and high school, I played field hockey and that was what I did. When I got to college and field hockey wasn’t a part of my life anymore I felt lost. Field hockey was where all of my friends were growing up and I got to Delaware and I just didn’t have that team anymore.

So, second semester rolled around and I decided to go for it and rush. I have to say that will always be one of the best decisions of my entire life. From the minute I stepped into the first room on the first day of recruitment, I felt so comfortable and at home immediately. Little did I know, that sorority was where I would end up just two weeks later.

Alpha Epsilon Phi has given me so much in such a short amount of time. I have so many beautiful sisters, and being an only child this is all so new to me. I’ve never had so many people to lean on. I have a Big, a G-Big, and a GG-Big, who I could not be more in love with. If you know us, you know that my Big and I are absolutely inseparable when we’re together. I have so many new friends that I don’t know that I would have met if I wasn’t a sister of Alpha Epsilon Phi. We have an incredible sisterhood, and we have amazing philanthropic efforts as well.

This year, UDance here at Delaware raised over 2 million dollars for the Andrew McDonough B+ Foundation and I am so proud to say that Alpha Epsilon Phi was the top fundraiser once again. The B+ Foundation consistently provides support to families of children with cancer and this organization is absolutely amazing. In addition to UDance, we have events for our two philanthropies, the Elizabeth Glaser Pediatric Aids Foundation and Sharsheret. The events we put on bring our community here at Delaware together in support of two amazing causes.

I think that I’d be lost at Delaware if I didn’t have Alpha Epsilon Phi. I don’t know that I would be as happy here if I didn’t have my sorority and all of my sisters. I am so glad that I decided to rush and I am so thankful that I found my home in AEPhi. I found a Big sister who is more than I ever expected and I know that she will be there for everything in my life.

I found friends who mean the world to me and that I would not have met without my sorority. I think it’s time we end the stigma around Greek Life. We cannot let the actions of the few speak for everyone, and we should be supporting sorority sisters rather than creating movies and television shows that allow for a stigma of the “typical sorority girl”.

Cover Image Credit: Mekenna Passner

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Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

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You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

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You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

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Late night talks were never more real.

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You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

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After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

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Making small goals can help you achieve a better tomorrow.


The future is mysterious. Because of this elusive, unknown timeline we all face, why shouldn't we spend our time daydreaming of our distant goals and desires? These dreams have a tendency to taunt us in our seemingly boring present life. But it feels so wonderful to visualize ourselves in a better, distant state of absolute satisfaction and fulfillment in all aspects of our future. This visual that we create of a happier, healthier, and stronger self, is what we consider to be our ending goal; our definition of success.

So what is future tripping, and why is it detrimental to our future success and present satisfaction with our lives? According to future tripping is a "human condition of peering into the imagined future and anticipating the outcome," but what's wrong with visualizing our "perfect" future career, future lifestyle, and future home, with a wood burning stove and all? Well, before I completely bash visualizing a "better" you, I have to give it credit because it gives you a motivator. The issue is that people, including myself, get so caught up in what we want rather than what we need to do to achieve this version of ourselves and our life.

If we were to only focus on our ending goal, we are creating an existence of madness, and impatience. We need to begin making smaller goals and smaller effort in an effort to become better. A peer of mine said something the other day that struck home. In my own words, he said, "You can only be better than the person you were yesterday." What a simple, achievable goal to work on daily. It sets the bar low, making it easier to feel satisfied as you lie in bed at night and think, "What did I do today that made me a better me than yesterday?" In making these small, easily achievable goals daily, you are working towards this future "self" you wish to become. In other words, you must walk before you can run.

The sooner we begin rewiring our consciousness to confront our current life, self, and mini goals, the more attainable and realistic our far-off goals will become. Each day must be lived, that is a fact. If we are always thinking about tomorrow, or a year from now, or decades from now, we are wasting the precious opportunities of living, exploring, and growing that today offers. If we continue to romanticize and future trip, our levels of current satisfaction will begin to plateau.

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