It all started unexpectedly, that first interaction with those flirty conversations, with those, “I want to get to know you’s" and the “man, I see a bright future with you’s.” New interests introduced while we think about the outcomes of this new “fling.” Pictures painted and dreams created of assumptions that we’ve constructed that we hope to come true. We don’t realize it then but as we open our pages and let those lines be read, we are surrendering. Those long chapters that were left unfinished, those main characters in those dramatic scenes, and those real words that we actually felt — it’s all out there, in the open.
Vulnerability is nothing new to us, we are comfortable enough to show it and proud enough to accept it. Hearts wore on our sleeves as we ignore the possibility of heartbreak and disappointment because we feel love and as love feels us we feel fulfilled. We get lost in those moments, in the dreams, and in those possibilities — we can’t help it.
When we’ve separated ourselves from relationships and gone along solo for some time, we forget the rush that comes with it. A rush that keeps us wanting more, a rush that gives up hope for the better, a rush that we’ve never had before but hopes that lasts forever. We may jump the gun because this new attention makes us excited, it makes it us feign for more, it makes us believe that we don’t have to search anymore.
But, that’s where we mess up. We hope and dream too much without realizing our actual realities. Living in two worlds that never meet, one for us and one for them. Assumptions are what kills us because we get so wrapped up in future and never live in the moment of what this “fling’”really is. Then there goes the “overstepping,” we think we are entitled to roles and have the lead way to say what goes, but we really don’t.
Who are we to enforce something that was probably never there? But, who are we to be quiet and not take action for what we really want? Tricky, that it is, but it’s necessary that we take a step back and evaluate our feelings to determine how to go about these situations.
No one wants to get their time wasted. So, dating these days is either a hit or miss. There will be good “catches” but we have to pick and choose which ones we actually want to pursue. It’s important to feel someone out first before getting “too hype” and running to your girls or boys bragging about finding “the one.”
If you speak too soon, then you’ll definitely fall short and be sick because of your inability to chill. You got too comfortable and now you’re left with no responses, no interactions, and no love.
Straight like that.
