No one ever tells you how hard it is to lose a family member or a friend. They never tell you how when they die, it feels completely unreal and you just want to run over to their house and see that they are okay and nothing happened. But, as you know, if you find yourself running to their house, you will find that it is true; they are gone. Your heart will sink and your throat will begin to hurt so you try to hold back some of the tears, which in the end you will find there was no point because eventually the tears will begin to flow and you feel like they will never stop.
About a month goes by and you find yourself starting to enjoy the things that you used to. You don’t cry every time you see something that reminds you of them. However, you still feel the same sorrow that you felt that very first day, every time you think about it. When good news comes around like a new job or even a good grade on an exam, you’ll pick up the phone to call them only to realize before even dialing... They are still gone. But this time it’s not as sad because you know that they are looking down at you, watching you succeed, and couldn’t be more proud.
A few years pass and you begin to finally feel like life is getting back to normal. You speak of the person you have lost, proudly and freely. As every event passes, you will wish that they could be there to see it along with every accomplishment you have made. You see yourself not crying as much as you used to when you think of them, but instead, you find yourself smiling. You bring out the old photo albums, cards, or memory boxes that still make it feel like they are with you, and you look back on everything that you did together. You are now finally seeing that when people told you it was going to be okay, they were right.
We do not simply forget about those we have lost and they are not only a memory. They are the people we will someday tell our kids about and forever wish that they got to see them grow up. They are the people we will tell our future friends or lovers about because you simply want to keep the memory of who they were alive. They are the ones who will be in our hearts every single day and the ones we think of before making big decisions. And now is when you realized that when you lost them, their soul became a part of you.
We all know that losing people is a part of life; pretty much everyone has lost someone. But just because someone has passed away does not mean that their spirit will not live on through the people who loved them. Losing a person close to us is the biggest loss in life, however it gets easier as we grow older. We remember all the good things that they did and we will forever keep them in our hearts. Even though the the ones we have loved and lost are gone, we make it so that they are not forgotten.
