In the dating age of us millenials we have a name for everything that we do. Before I knew ghosting was ghosting I've been doing it. I pride myself in being honest and up front with people about my feelings but sometimes to avoid the hassel and the awkwardness it might bring, I find it easier to "ghost" someone.
For those of us who don't know what "ghosting" is, it's when one party goes silent on the other person in the middle of getting to know each other and no matter how much prodding – aka, texts – sent to said ghoster there is no response. Leaving the "ghostee" feeling sad, confused and sometimes upset.
For some people ghosting is fine as long as it's us ghosting someone else but as soon as it happens to us we don't like it. The best kind of ghosting I like is when it's mutual.
A few weeks ago I went on a date with a guy who had been asking me out for a couple weeks, he's not usually the type of guy I go for but I was in the "try something new phase." I agreed and we went out. We got along fine but there was no chemistry there and I also didn't get his jokes. (Which is apparently a big deal for not only me but him as well.)
After the date I drove home and thanked him for taking me out, he responded in an accomodating way and we never spoke again.
As far as dates went that wasn't my worst date, but when you don't feel something why bother dragging it and the other person out? By the end of the first date you should get a good sense of the person and whether or not you'd work in the long run, but there's also nothing wrong in going on another date if you're not one hundred percent sure of your feelings toward said person.
If the second date doesn't go as planned it's okay to ghost them, as long as you're aware that you might be hurting their feelings by not being upfront with them and suddenly cutting them off.
No one likes to feel like they're not good enough, so consider it carefully before ghosting your next victim.
