“You are so amazing, you’ll find someone soon don’t worry!!!”
Those words have spewed from the mouths of countless friends and family as they’ve tried to find the right thing to say about my singleness. For years I listened, smiled, and nodded as those words became brainwashed into my head, making me believe my life would one day start as soon as I met that “someone”. I’ve spent years waiting for the day that man would enter my life, but instead have been left with boys who can’t commit or timing that never seemed to work. As I was lying in my bed, exhausted from a loneliness that only 3am can bring out, tears began to fall down the side of my face. My thoughts began to race and the blame began to start.
“God, I don’t understand why You haven’t given me someone.”
“God, I’ve been committed to You and You can’t even give me someone to share my life with?”
“God, why does SHE get to be with him and I don’t?"
“God, it’s not fair.”
As the words began to fill my head, the tears began to fill my face. I was drowning in my own self-pity when suddenly the thoughts that were screaming in my head became overpowered by six words that caused the heart inside my chest to sink into my stomach:
God never promised me a husband.
That’s right. At no point in time has God ever promised he would provide me with a boyfriend who would one day become the man I marry. God never promised me a husband, and He didn’t promise you one either.
People talk about being alone as if it is the worst thing that can happen to a person, but in my opinion, settling for a love that cannot light up whole cities or put the vastness of entire oceans to shame is much worse than solitude will ever be. The problem is, nobody wants to look you in the eyes and tell you that you may never find that kind of love. Instead, they look you in the eyes, tell you that you’ll find someone soon, and you’re left holding onto an expectation that may never be met. You were never promised a husband, but you were promised something much greater.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
You are promised a future. You are promised hope. You are promised life; A life so wonderful that the maker of the universe has extraordinary plans that have been created just for you. Maybe those plans involve a husband or maybe they don’t. I don’t know. What I do know, is that God will never leave you empty. If your life is not filled with love from a man, God will fill that vacant space with unforeseen wonders. Stop believing that your life can't begin until you fall in love. It’s okay to desire a husband. It’s okay to ask God to bring a man into your life, but please know that your life has already begun, and it will continue whether a man is a part of it or not. Start filling yourself up with the love that is consuming the world around you. Serve others, be kind, and follow Jesus. God has big plans for you, darling, and husband or not, those plans are going to rock your world.
