Being in a relationship with the love of your life is an amazing feeling. They quickly become your best friend, your teacher, your rock, and your shoulder to cry on. They become everything you think you need. When you're sad, you depend on them to make you happy. When you're scared, you want them to comfort you. When you have doubts about their love, you ask them to reassure you. Couples become dependent on each other to be happy and while they work so hard reaching for one another, they never reach high enough.
It's easy falling into this pattern, going only to your significant other in times of need. They are tangible, you can feel and see them, and they seem to offer immediate relief from your concerns. But this comfort is temporary, because the people you love and emotionally depend on will, eventually, fail you.
People are imperfect. They can't help that they're human. Sooner or later they will let you down, maybe making you feel worse about your situation. They cannot provide the true healing that you need. There is only one who will never fail you, make you truly happy, comfort you when you're scared, and reassure you when you have doubts. He is God, and He is perfect.
Depending on each other to make you happy is a lot of pressure. Expecting someone to be perfect is a big responsibility, one that a human can't bare. Putting this amount of strain on your partner will cause relationships to fall apart. It will stem into useless bickering, stress, and less happiness. It paves the way for an unhealthy dependency and constant need of reassurance from them, and in most circumstances, a breakup. Only God can take on the task of never failing us as we should go to Him, first, for counsel.
A dependency-ridden relationship can be mended by placing our faith back in God, accepting that your partner is perfectly imperfect, getting used to the idea of them failing you, and being quick to forgive. When you feel uneasy about your relationship, go to God, first, with your worries and pray for your partner. Love them unconditionally, and love their flaws as well. Don't pressure them to change to better fit your mold of perfection, they will never achieve it.
Doing this will alleviate the strain on your relationship. Your partner will not be concerned with constant pressure, and you will feel better and more confident in them because you've accepted their imperfections. Ask them to forgive you for making them your god, tell them that you love them for who they are, make it known that you go to God for comfort and healing.You'll both experience indescribable happiness when you bring God into the midst. The same goes for your partner. If you feel they are depending too heavily on you, be their prayer partner. Direct them to God and not to yourself.
Being in a relationship is an amazing experience. It's exciting and wonderful. It's good that they are your best friend, as long as you still call God your friend. It's expected that they teach you new things as long as you never neglect God's teachings. It's wonderful that they are your rock as long as you know God is your foundation. It's okay for them to be your shoulder to cry on, as long as you cry out to God. He is unwavering and loving. He knows just what to do in your times of trouble. He knows exactly how to comfort you and heal your wounds. He is God, and He is perfect.
