News flash guys — you can’t just come in and out of a girl’s life whenever you damn well please. The world does not revolve around you, and you can’t keep going back to someone when it is convenient for you. We are human beings, not objects for your amusement or satisfaction. We have feelings (lots of them, let's be real). We have lives to live and no time or interest in playing your games, especially during this time of our lives.

I've dealt with this time and time again, as I’m sure many of my fellow ladies out there have as well. It's not a good feeling at all to be treated like a revolving door -- in fact it is almost insulting. I’m certainly not saying that girls aren’t guilty of doing this too but from the talks I've had with a lot of my girlfriends — it is more so men who have this sh*tty habit in common. 

The story tends to go a bit like this: girl meets guy, guy swoons girl, they have a “thing” for a bit, guy stops talking to girl, girl is upset, girl gets over it, guy starts noticing how good she’s doing without him and hits her up again via text or Snapchat or some other social network. 

Looking back at some of the guys (or perhaps "boys" would be more suiting) I've talked to in my past, this has happened far too many times than it should have. That is partially my fault though, don't get me wrong, I'm not completely blaming the guys; a quality of mine that is both a burden and a blessing is that I like to see the best in people, give them the benefit of the doubt, and forgive. I think many ladies also struggle with this when it comes to men. The thing that sucks about this is that guys seem to somehow know and take advantage of that. But guess what? Not anymore, because I’m here to stand up for us girls and to be that girl who has the lady-balls to call guys out on it. But instead of just telling you what d-bags you guys are, I’m going to outline a few important things to keep in mind when talking to a girl to help you be better men and to hopefully stop this habit amongst guys nowadays. 

Be consistent.
I mean this across all aspects -- talking, hanging out, whatever it is, just be consistent with it. No one likes a flake or someone who is all over the place. The worst thing you can do is waste a girl's time.

Have honest intentions.
I truly believe that for the most part, honesty is the best policy in life. Lying only brings about bad karma, and nothing is worse than getting a caught in a lie. If you have no intention of dating her for real, then man up and let her know that, and don't lead her feelings down the wrong path. Just be real and straight up with a girl you are talking to, and she will respect you so much more.   

Going off of my previous point: Say what you mean and mean what you say.
I know this is a toughie because even for me, it's hard to let myself be vulnerable like that. We are all afraid of rejection, and that is what makes it so hard to do this, but it makes all the difference in the world. If you like a girl, tell her. If you want to see other people, tell her. Honestly, just act in a way you would want a man to treat your future daughter, sister, or mother. Simple as that.

Actions speak significantly louder than words.
This phrase is and always will be true. Words are words -- anyone can say whatever they want via text or Facebook, but that doesn't mean they are being genuine. If you tell a girl you want to be exclusive but your texts, Snapchat, Instagram, or drunken actions at the bar on the weekends show differently... I can tell you right now you're in the fast lane to losing that girl. Actions are a direct reflection on the kind of person you are, so make sure your actions are in line with your values as a man. There's a quote by Maya Angelou that my mother has always told me that I try to live by: "When people show you who they are, believe them." Guys, believe me when I say your actions mean everything.

Realize that when it comes to girls it should be about quality, not QUANTITY.
In college this can seem basically impossible, especially with shows like 'Blue Mountain State' influencing you otherwise. But just think about it, what are you going to accomplish with a high number or talking to multiple girls at once? Literally, you are accomplishing nothing except losing some of your dignity. Is your future employer, wife, grand-kids, etc. going to care about that? Nope. Can you put that on your resume? Nope. Do you think girls want to hang out with a guy who's known for "hanging with" a lot of girls? Nope.

There you have it guys, now go forth with this knowledge and find your dream girl. Oh and when you do... You're welcome.