If there is one thing that I've learned about being a girl, it's that there are a million rules in Girl World. Some of them, like, "You can't wear white after Labor Day," are a little less important than, "Ex-boyfriends are off limits to friends. That's just, like, the rules of feminism!" Even though we are given these sets of rules, Girl World still has its issues. For starters, we all talk behind each other's backs and then plaster a fake smile on our face next time we see the girl we just gossiped about. It's not something that I am proud to admit, but it is the truth.
Girls are so concerned with the lives of other girls, and just because someone might live their life differently, we judge them. I'm not the type of girl to take selfies and post them to Instagram, but when I scroll through my feed and see that someone else is, I immediately judge them. "You look cute and have nice clothes. We get it." Why do I, and other girls, do this? We should be happy that our girlfriends feel confident enough to take a picture because they felt pretty that day. We are so quick to disapprove, when in reality, who cares if so-and-so took a selfie? We know they look good, and they know they look good: just embrace it!
Although Girl World can be a place of loyal support and comfort, it's also notorious for subtweeting, spreading rumors and hating others for no apparent reason. My advice to every girl about subtweeting is simple: don't do it. We are not in middle school anymore, and conflict will not be solved by putting your drama on blast. With the help of social media, spreading rumors and getting revenge on your ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend has never been more simple. It's time for us to give up the unnecessary animosity.
There is already more than enough hatred in the world for girls to be hating one another for petty reasons. I'm definitely not saying that if you have a real problem with another girl, you should suck it up and be her BFF. There are obviously going to be times where we don't see eye to eye with everyone. That's fine, we are only human. But, if you have a conflict with someone, you need act like an adult about it.
I would be lying if I said I'm all about girl power and do all the right things when it comes to being nice to other girls. I've been the girl that talks crap about someone because they rubbed me the wrong way. But, I've also been the girl that has heard what other girls have said about me when I may have rubbed them the wrong way. There has never been something easier yet more complicated than the solution to end this vicious cycle: be nice to each other.
Girl World can be a painful circle of criticism, rumors, competition and hatred. If we could just put away the negativity for one minute and look at the big picture, that we are all searching for inner-happiness (and if you're like me, maybe a nice future husband too), then we might just be able to make this world a better place.
