To The Girl Who’s In Love With Someone She Can’t Have

To the girl who’s in love with someone she can’t have,

It’s one of the most painful things in the world. It’s one of the worst things anyone could ever feel. Loving someone you know you can’t have is just the absolute worst. (I may be dramatizing this a bit to get my point across), but it isn't always the worst and it doesn’t always hurt. The things you are feeling right now won’t last forever.

I totally understand what you are going through, and to an extent, I am still going through it as well. But I can also tell you that it will eventually get easier. You have to stop thinking about that person. You have to stop bringing that person up with memories every chance you get. Don’t tell me you are not doing it because I know you are, I did it too and that is okay.

To the girl who’s in love with someone she can’t have,

There will come a time where you feel yourself letting go of whatever was holding you to that person. You will start to let go of everything that reminds you of them. You will start to be okay with seeing their friends around and start saying ‘Hi’ again as you pass them. You will start to be okay with going out again even if the possibility is high that you might see them.

To the girl who’s in love with someone she can’t have,

You will be able to do things you never thought you could. You will be able to love yourself more than you ever thought you could. You will be able to go and do so many amazing things with your life. You will meet so many amazing new people during your new journey and chapter in your life and you will be so thankful for them when the rough days come back.

I’m not going to lie to you and make it sound like this is something that you will quickly get over. I promise you that this hurt you are feeling will not go away overnight, it takes a while. You have to have faith in yourself that you can overcome this bump in the road. That’s all it is, a bump in the road. Surround yourself with people who love you and will be understanding and patient with you as you start to heal and process these emotions.

To the girl who’s in love with someone she can’t have,

I know it may be bad right now, but later on down the road, you will be thankful for this experience. You will be thankful that you have learned how it feels to love someone as much as you love this individual right now. You will be thankful for everything that person has taught you about yourself. You will feel more empowered and self-confident than you ever thought you could. You just have to get over this bump, and you will.

Sincerely,