This is for the girls that need to be with their boyfriend every minute. This is for the girls that move in with their boyfriend less than 2 months of dating. This is for the girls that don’t let their boyfriend have his "guy time" and I mean alone, not with you.
I'm tired of watching from the sidelines and seeing girls smother their boyfriends every day. I understand you guys like each other and want to spend every waking moment with them, but you don’t need to smother them.
The first year in a new relationship is called the honeymoon stage. Everything is going great and then you think that moving in with each other would be a great idea. You don't truly know someone until after 2 years of dating someone, so why move in with each other when it has only been less than 6 months of meeting this guy? And while you're paying all of your attention to your boyfriend, you forget about your friends and family.
Here’s a little secret tip about men for you- Just like how you need your friends, they need their alone time also. While you are paying all of your attention to your boyfriend, you forget about your friends and family. I know lots of girls that think guys don’t need their guy time but that's the key to having a good relationship. Giving them their space does more good for your relationship than piling on the love. Yes, they might play their video games every night with each other and you hang out with his friends, but guys need time away from their girlfriends where they can act like boys and not get judged for acting stupid. Hanging out with you and his friends is not the same as having their alone time.
Also while you are with each other every day, there won't be room for him to miss you. Guys are wired differently and within that space that you give them, they will start to appreciate you more and start to miss you more. He will actually mean it when he says “I miss you too” after not seeing each other for a weekend.
Yes, some of you are ready for the next step into the future and want to get married, but like I said, the first year of any relationship is the honeymoon phase and you guys are still getting to know each other. That's never a good time to move in together. I see so many relationships fail and end fast because of that reason. That won't make for a healthy relationship because guys don’t like getting smothered. When you give him space, he starts to think of the last time you guys hung out and he will start to see how much you trust him than actually telling him you do. That's when he will start to see a future with you. Do I hear wedding bells?
The best part of giving your guy his alone time is he will be less of a grump at home. In my book, that's a win-win situation.
