One thing I learned over my very few short 19 years is that you have to learn to be dependent on yourself and only yourself. There are many days, especially growing up as a bigger girl in high school that I have questioned what my self-worth is.

Little things that are different about you than the average girl began to take a toll on you. You want to be different and be your own person but you try to blend in with the rest of society just trying to be liked. Yeah, I was once that girl and still harbor a small part of her in me.

I was the girl who went clothes shopping with other people and picks up smaller sizes than I wore in embarrassment only to return them later when I was by myself. Or you can dread clothing shopping and avoid it at all cost.

If you are the girl who needs to learn to love herself, you probably have struggled with that eating problem. Whether it be eating too little, eating too much, or watching your calories, you hate the bad habits you have developed.

You may obsessively like I did (and still periodically do) scroll through Instagram and admire the pictures of the prettier girls with so many pounds of makeup, spray tan, and models sprinting around in clothing that resembles dental floss. You probably depend on someone, like I did, for someone to give you a compliment, just for you to be able to feel like you are worth something.

If not, you probably fish for a compliment for whatever reason it may be just to obsessively replay what they said in your head all day.

But let me ask you a question. If someone were to leave your life (spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, family), would you be able to live with yourself being completely dependent on yourself solely?

You need to be able to stand on your own two feet and depend on yourself. Sometimes you have to go through the world and there won't be anybody else there to be your backbone and you have to learn to push on by yourself. You have to encourage your own self in the times of trouble.