What should do in this situation or that, what choice do I make when theirs two totally different ones, and what do I do when I have no clue what I am doing with my life?
Friends, Family, Co-Workers, and others ask for advice on a daily basis and some people are better at giving it than others. We all know those people who are the best to go to for advice; However, when it comes time to listen to their own advice they just can not do it.
Well I am that person. I am the girl who can give great advice in almost anyway and any situation, but when it is me going through the same stuff I can not seem to solve my own problems. This thought popped in my head one day when I was talking to a friend and asking her for advice. She told me that I should follow the same advice I gave her... Part of me thought 'well it is different because this time it is me', but the other part of me decided to really look into what she said.
After spending some time thinking about it, I decided that I was practically going through the same situation as she was at one point, but the reason that I was struggling more when it involved me is because my heart was involved. When she came to me originally, when she was going through the same situation, it did not effect me, so I thought about it with my brain and my heart was not involved. When my situation came about, I learned quickly how much really does change when your heart is involved in the situation.
These thoughts made me reanalyze my situation and the advice I normally give. I finally understood why some people had such a hard time when they were going through similar situations and I gained a new respect for them. I also realized that I was having a hard time in my situation, because my heart had too much of a say. I was basing everything I was doing off of feelings instead of common sense. This is where I initially learned that what your heart feels still matters, but it can not take over everything because you have to use your head in a lot of these situations too!
Sometimes you need your brain to be like, 'Hey, that not right. You should not let anyone talk to you like that' or 'You may have feelings for him/her but is that what is right for you in the long run?' You need your head to keep you out of danger and to help assist you in your decisions. Your hearts feelings, may be strong and might see past mistakes that people have made or see past who people really are which in turns makes them seem like a better person. In the end, your heart can have a say, but do not let it have control.
