To The Girl Who Doesn't Want To Be Tied Down

To The Girl Who Doesn't Want To Be Tied Down

Now is the time to put yourself first

So, you're in college, and it is one of the most transitional periods of your life.

I mean, in high school, wanting a relationship was so common, but now that you are in college, you have figured out that things are not so black and white anymore. You have some friends that are in relationships, some that are single, and then some friends that you don't even know what to classify them as at the moment.

Hey, that's OK, because college is that time where you can be whoever you want to be because there are no expectations like there are in high school.

In high school, being in a relationship was such a cool thing because it felt like a strike of independence and being grown up. However, you get to college and you realize what true independence actually is and it can change your perspective on a lot of things. So, to the girl who does not want to be tied down, I'm here to tell you this:

It is OK for the most important person in your life to be yourself.

We live in a world where this might be seen as selfish, but you know what? It is not. You are going through immense change and discovery. You have the rest of your life to put other people before yourself, if you so choose. This is the time where you get to put your priorities first.

After college, you will take on so many responsibilities (and believe me, a relationship is quite the responsibility), so there is no need for you to feel bad about being single with your whole life ahead of you like this. I promise this decision won't cause you to end up alone.

The truth is, just because you like someone does not mean you have to commit... and just because you don't commit doesn't mean you don't like someone.

Again, put yourself first. Just because you do not want to be tied down to someone does not mean you do not like them. There is nothing wrong with wanting to commit, but there is also nothing wrong with NOT wanting to commit.

You are still trying to figure out who you are, and how can someone expect you to figure out a relationship when you haven't even fully figured yourself out yet. Do not ever let someone convince you that if you cared more, you would commit. Truthfully, if you cared less, you would probably just have some meaningless relationship.

However, you don't see relationships from a middle-school perspective, so in your eyes, an actual relationship means something serious and it is a commitment. There are all kinds of people in college, some ready to be in a relationship and some not.

And that's OK! Commitment is not always the easiest thing for us to embrace, so listen to your gut, because if you have doubt, there is probably a good reason.

If you ask me, not being tied down truly is liberating.

I'm not going to lie, being single in college is so liberating. The world feels so full of opportunities, and you don't have any commitments weighing you down.

We're college students and we have enough on our plates with future careers, friends and keeping our parents happy. It feels good to be single, independent and planning my future without other commitments in mind. I'm definitely not saying that being in a relationship in college is a bad thing.

All I'm saying is that deep down, you will know if you're at a point where you are ready for a relationship and if you're not, then you have the rest of your life to figure that part out. So, enjoy being single and not having to share your bed or your food!

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

Cover Image Credit: Lauren Margliotti

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