Since my engagement a few months ago, people have shared mixed feelings towards my plans of getting married young. Some people disagree with my decision, saying things about me “missing out” or being “too young” or even going as far as asking me “how I can be sure.”
Getting engaged and married young isn’t something I ever thought I would do. I had all of these plans for myself and for what my future held, and settling down early wasn’t part of that. I wanted to write, I wanted to travel, and I wanted to maintain independence for as long as I could. But those thoughts were swirling in my head long before I knew my fiancé and long before I realized I could do all of those things, just with the most incredible partner through all of it.
To me, having a person through all of my next endeavors is a wonderful comfort for me. I have a friend and a partner to be my sidekick through everything I want to try and experience. Settling down young does not equate to the end of experiences, but rather just the beginning of brand new experiences.
Getting married in two years is the right decision for me because I have the right person to do it with. I am constantly supported, encouraged, and challenged to be the best me I can be. I am supported in my hopes of becoming a writer. I am encouraged to try new things, whether it be as simple as new foods, or meeting new people, or even better myself physically. And I am challenged every day. I have become more patient, more expressive, and happier.
People express concerns for me and my fiancé, saying that we are too young, and wondering what the rush is, and wondering if this will be the end of the “party” for both of us. But that’s how I know that I am making the right decision for me because I am marrying someone who makes every day a party.
