Is It Ever OK To Get Back Together With An Ex?
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For The Person Thinking Of Getting Back Together With An Ex, Hear This First

Something important to consider is if you've grown since then. Every experience in your life teaches you something and you learn from it, especially with breakups.

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For The Person Thinking Of Getting Back Together With An Ex, Hear This First

When you're with someone and it ends, it's difficult to let go. And sometimes the opportunity for them to re-enter your life comes and you have to decide if it's worth it. Letting someone back into your life is just as hard as letting them go. Here are some tips to help you decide if they deserve a second chance.

Why?

The first step to deciding should be to asses why you broke up in the first place. In volatile cases like cheating and any form of abuse, the answer should immediately be no. If the reason was something about distance or self-confidence issues, it's worth considering and weighing your options.

The potential for change

You or the other person is willing to make a change, something that makes the relationship different from before. Then it makes it worth it to try again. There should be an effort to try and to work at it differently. Getting back together is not benefiting anyone if the relationship goes back to the way it was.

Is love enough?

You shouldn't get back into a relationship if there are no feelings left. It can be hard to let go of someone when you've become used to the routine you shared but if there is no love and affection left, you'll end up unhappy again.

The potential for growth

Something important to consider is if you've grown since then. Every experience in your life teaches you something and you learn from it, especially with breakups. Even though you're getting back together, it's a new relationship so you should be a different person. Now, I don't mean change your persona and looks. I mean that you've grown and hopefully gained some wisdom since then that will help you be the best version of yourself and have a better relationship.

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