It's Hard To Know Where To Get Off The Struggle Bus

It's Hard To Know Where To Get Off The Struggle Bus When You're Driving It

Or maybe you really own the struggle bus company


The "struggle bus" - almost everyone has taken a ride on it. Some of us are more frequent riders (guilty!) than others while some get on and ride for maybe four stops. Either way, we've all been there (done that). Society has this false reality that we, as individuals, have to have our lives together from a young age and that we not only need to succeed but struggle as little as we can while doing it. WRONG.

I'm gonna be honest: while I joke around that I "own the [struggle bus] company", I struggle just like everyone else. The few times when I've been told that I look like I have my life put together, I get surprised every time. It makes me want to laugh because I know just how far I am from actually "having my life together".

And I'll admit, I like feeling like I am "put together" and even something as simple as feeling good in the way I look makes me feel put together. It sounds weird, I know. And this might be the most surprising part- I honestly do worry about the way people see me. Something as simple as the outfit I'm wearing and the way I look is nice- it creates this "fake it 'til you make it" idea in my head that if I can feel put together, I am. I don't specifically have this image I want to appear as, but if the person I am and the appearance I have can make me more confident and feel like I have some sort of grip on my life- it helps.

Some of my friends really do know the struggles I go through daily. I'm not a graceful person. I mess up. I work too hard on the simplest things. I don't pretend to have my shit together. Geez, it even took me probably way too many drafts to put together this one article. Side note: you know that movie scene when someone in a high school hallway drops all of their books and papers and everything goes flying?? Yeah, that's basically how my life is sometimes.

Yet, the most important thing that I remember? Progress is progress. It unintentionally became my motto and is something that's stuck with me through whatever I go through. It's something that keeps my mind moving and helps me to focus on the fact that as long as I'm moving forward, I'm doing something right. But, It is okay to struggle. It's okay to ask for help (trust me, ask for the help, you'll thank yourself later). It's okay to want to do things on your own. What's not okay? Pretending that everything is really okay when it's not. I'll be the first to admit that I'm guilty of this and it sucks as much, if not more than it sounds like it does.

But remember this: know that however long you ride the "struggle bus", eventually you'll get off. And while your rides might be infrequent, a "regular", or even driving the bus- you'll get off and know where you are. You can't rush the "struggle bus" - it doesn't work that way. And as much as it sucks, there are times when the bus you're on (or driving) is gonna run some stop signs and panic- but it'll be okay. Just remember that the ride doesn't last forever and eventually, you'll find your stop.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!


It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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