Surely you all know someone like this, right? They are super social in comfortable situations and then around newer people or in class, even, they are very quiet. I'm that kind of person.

My personality is very hard to describe because all of my close friends think I am very outgoing and open and people who don’t know me at all think I am quiet and shy -- and the thing is that I am not one or the other, but both.

When I am in a new situation like a job interview or when I went abroad or went to summer camp as a kid, I was kind of forced to be personable and outgoing or else I would be lonely. So right off the bat, people think I am an extrovert. When I am at school though and I’m in a party environment or at an event, I am SO bad at talking to new people—even though I would love to.

It’s hard sometimes because I really do enjoy talking to and meeting new people but the actual process of it is scary in a weird way. I hate asking questions too, though sometimes I just force myself to because if I can do something by myself or figure it out alone then I’d much rather do that than confront someone else.

My new year’s resolution this year was to be more outgoing and try not to worry so much about what others may think if I ask questions or speak my mind. When I told my friends this, they couldn’t believe that I wanted to work on being outgoing because they thought I already was. While I am happy to work on being more outgoing, I am happy with the balance that makes up the person I am. I feel as though I know when to speak up (if I really need to) and when to sit back and listen.