New places can be scary. Especially college. ESPECIALLY when you go in not really knowing anyone. You have to adjust to new classes, a new schedule, all the new food from the caf! But the hardest thing to do is make new friends. in college, you really get a good sense of who your true friends are. Because lets face it, the friends you make in college are going to last you a lifetime. Sometimes you even find out who your toxic friends are. Those friends you have to let go of. I have been in college a little over two months now and it has already become apparent who I will keep in touch with for the rest of my life.
I pledged Chi Omega in August and I am anxiously awaiting initiation in January. I know that I can call these girls my family and that I can go to them for anything. My big, Claire Chesnut, is without a doubt the best big ever. Not only do I consider her my best friend, but she also is a wonderful mentor and keeps me in line. I don’t know what i would do without all of them!
I have made many friends that live in the same building as I do. They are all wonderful and I’m so glad that I have them in my life. This does not, however, mean that I do not have the occasional toxic friendship. Here is some general advice on how to detect and eliminate toxic friendships!
One: They constantly correct you.
Two: They belittle what you believe in
Three: They are not always honest with you. Even about little things.
Four: They always try to one up you. Everything (again, even the little little things) is
a competition
Five: They will never take your feelings into consideration when making decisions.
Now how do you deal with toxic friendships? You get rid of them. Remove them from your life because you know what? Life is too short to be unhappy everyday! ALWAYS be who you are and never be ashamed of that. You are beautiful and don't ever let anyone tell you differently.
