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The Best Friendships Come When You Least Expect It

I'm lucky to have you as my partner in couch.



First and foremost, I'd like to mention how lucky I am to have found you. I know we've known of each other for years. But honestly, I was intimidated by your beauty, your genuine kindness and your love of going out (at the time). We were always friendly to one another but never hung out. If only we decided four years ago to spend one day and hang out, the rest would have been history. Life has a funny way of working out anyway because you're stuck with me for life, it just took a few years longer than I would have liked.

This won't be one of my rambles, don't worry. I just find it necessary to show my appreciation towards you and the wonderful person that you are.

You were gone for Semester at Sea and came back to live alone and become a fancy real estate agent. You came into my life at such an ideal time for the both of us. Thank you Elan Midtown for bringing us together, Since then, you have changed my life for the better. I have never found someone so similar to me in so many ways. We have such similar outlooks, humor and interests. We even speak the same. We're basically with the same boy (two different people, same personality) and I know that I could come to you for anything--our (first world) problems are pretty much the same anyway. There is this saying that opposites attract, but that's not the case for us. We're a powerful force, you and I. (and Drewby of course).

It is rare to know someone for a few months but have it feel like we have known each other for years. Fortunately, that is that case for us. I believe that is something so special. I purposely scheduled an extended trip back to move out of my apartment in Charleston so that I could have extra time with you. I came into college with a group of friends my freshman year. I left college with less than five incredibly close friends and I wouldn't change a thing.

Some of my favorite times in college were laying horizontal next to you on my couch, watching crime and cult shows and not moving for hours. And of course our late night Benny runs, eating pizza bigger than our faces and wondering "who's stomach made noise this time". I will always be here to listen, your shoulder to cry on and your fellow schemer. You're the only Fortnite gamer I will always be willing to tolerate.

You don't judge me for my crazy and you show me what it takes to be a giving, genuine, caring and happy person. I have never met someone who brings so much light into a room in an instant. As soon as someone meets you, Ands, you make them feel special and most importantly, comfortable. You are so easy to talk to and such an incredible confidant. I would be crushed if I didn't have you in my life. Thank you for being my angel sent from heaven above, I don't know what I would do without you.

Ps. My mother now has to cheers at every meal because of you. Your amazing personality never stops leaving a mark.

I love you with my whole heart


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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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You Don't Have To See Your Friends Every Day

We all have lives that we're trying to balance.


For as long as I can remember, whenever I would have no plans and go on Snapchat to see all my friends having fun without me, I would get FOMO. I'd get really sad and think that they didn't care about me because they didn't invite me. It would get me in such a bad mood that it would ruin any chance of going out with someone else who wanted to hang out.

I don't know if it was just my anxiety of people hating me or if it was a fear of missing out (FOMO). Even recently, it has gotten me down. However, over the past month or so, I finally realized something: you don't have to hang out every day to still consider each other friends.

Everyone has a life that they're trying to balance, especially after high school. People work (maybe even more than one job) and go to school. Some have to take care of family members or do things for their family. Some people are focusing on themselves. Some have relationships to maintain. Whatever it is, we all have lives that we're trying to balance.

We all want to have fun, but school, work, and our families are the priorities.

Even if they're out hanging with other people, it doesn't mean that they don't want to hang out with you. Free time is served on a "first come, first serve" basis. It's hard to balance hanging out with multiple people.

I also learned that it doesn't matter the number of friends you have. What truly matters is the quality. Ask yourself, "Who's there for me when I really need someone?" The people who are there for you when you really need someone to talk to are your TRUE friends.

It's not easy to be there for someone and make them feel better. If they offer to listen or give advice, they care!

I know that it may feel like you have no friends sometimes, but that's not true. Life after high school is hard at times. You're an adult. You have to do adult things and take care of yourself first.

You have to realize that everyone has a busy schedule and not all your friends' schedules will align with yours, but that's okay! You don't need to hang out with friends every day to consider them your friends. What truly matters is if they are there for you when you need them.

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