What To Do When Friends Keep Canceling Plans To Hang Out

How To Avoid The 'We Totally Need To Hangout Soon' Situations That Never End Up Happening

Make time for your friends or just don't have any.

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Freshman year is the definition of a tease.

Your class load isn't that hard, you can go to sleep at 4 a.m. and somehow make it to your 8 a.m. (most days), and going out is a sort of daily routine. You're super close with your friends and you're always having a good time freshman year, and then all of a sudden you are constantly saying you will hang out soon or making plans that you never keep.

It seems as if they are always doing something fun while you're working or you're working while they are doing something fun. Now, not only are you having trouble keeping up with friends that go to different universities or live back home, but also finding time to see friends who live in the same city as you. Sound familiar?

Keeping up with your friends is not something that is easy.

If you want to have friends and have a busy schedule, you have to balance your schedule in a way that allows it. It may be your self-proclaimed free time or you might ask them to tag along to study. Either way, you are spending time with them! We can even go a step further and actually plan to hang out and catch up. Crazy right?

When you create your weekly schedule and don't leave any time open to see friends, guess what? You won't have any time to see friends. If you plan your schedule and make an effort to carve out some time in your schedule for a friend, you'll have that time.

You don't just have plans with people because you want them, you have them because you make them.

Make plans, make time!

Sometimes you have to just reach out and let your friend know you miss them. If you basically fell off the earth into your own little world for the past few months and they haven't heard back from you, why do you just expect them to be reaching out constantly? If you miss your friends, tell them!

Set up a weekly FaceTime, like me and my BFF from home do, or just give them a call and actually catch up instead of just saying you want to.

And what about the friends that you miss but they never seem to reach out to you? Fuck em. Don't keep trying to make plans with someone who never texts, calls, or uses any form of communication to keep up with you. Use that time and energy for a friend who cares about how you're doing as well!

Some friends fall off, and that's OK.

People grow and change, a lot of times for the better. Growing apart from someone isn't necessarily a bad thing all of the time.

Moral of the story here: pick up the phone and tell your friends you miss them if you do.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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11 Hangout Spots In Athens That You And Your Buddies Can Enjoy

These are the coolest spots in Athens for a day of good wholesome fun.

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Athens is famous for being a party-hard college town, but it is also full of opportunities for an awesome time outside of the bars. The quaint local establishments encourage Athenians to spend quality time with friends and family, with options for every group and preference to hang out in Athens and have an entertaining time.

1. The Rook and Pawn.

This quaint board game cafe offers a multitude of games from "Risk" to "Exploding Kittens" and everything in between. Whether you want a chill night of fun or an intellectually stimulating competition, the Rook and Pawn is a perfect place to get to know others. They also have a tasty menu and lovely teas, adding to the homey ambiance of the establishment.

2. Ice skating at the Classic Center.

Take advantage of this event during its limited duration; it is a lovely winter activity best enjoyed with a group of friends or significant other. Skating around on the ice allows for pleasant conversations while still engaging in a nice physical activity and getting your exercise in for the day.

3. Athens Skate Inn.

Athens Skate Inn offers skating activities all year round. It is located off of Atlanta Highway and has both inline and regular roller skates available for rental, as well as a few video games and a party room. For those with a love for all things retro, Oldies Night on Wednesdays is a fabulous way to skate around with your buddies listening to the best classic tunes.

4. Showtime Bowl.

Another classic activity, bowling is a relaxing way to hang out with friends. Showtime Bowl also has an arcade room and billiard tables for those tired of hitting the alleys.

5. Legion Pool.

Only open from late May to early August, Legion Pool is located on campus and shares a parking lot with Bolton Dining Hall. It offers a refreshing reprieve from the heat of summertime in the south and is open to University of Georgia students for a discounted price.

6. Bear Hollow Zoo.

This zoo features animals rescued from the wild, most of which are native to Georgia. There are also several beautiful trails, a lake, and a playground in the property, and entry is free to everyone.

7. State Botanical Gardens.

The State Botanical Gardens are a dazzling representation of local and foreign plant species and hosts several events throughout the year such as the Insect-ival, a bug-themed festival which occurs every fall. The gardens and surrounding woods are riddled with beautiful paths and trails.

8. Georgia Theatre.

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Don't let the cozy size of this music venue fool you; it has housed many popular names in the music industry, such as Walk The Moon and Elle King, and its smaller capacity makes every spot in the house a good one.

9. Georgia Museum of Art.

The Georgia Museum of Art is tucked-away near UGA south campus and displays many permanent works of art and usually a few transient collections as well, so there is always a reason to revisit. Pieces from ancient times to the contemporary can be seen, and there is a particularly spectacular selection from the renaissance era.

10. Athens Farmers Market.

The farmers market at Bishop Park is an enchanting way to begin Saturday mornings; live music fills the tennis courts wherein the local farmers and artisans sell their goods and food carts and booths sell their freshly made pastries, cheeses, and other yummy bites. On Wednesday evenings Creature Comforts hosts a smaller segment of the farmer's market as well, gathering together the citizens of Athens to support sustainability and their local economy.

11. Tate Theatre.

Free to UGA students and open to other paying customers as well, the Tate Theatre provides showings of both recent and throwback movies, a convent and affordable opportunity for catching films that you missed in the theatre or haven't seen in a while.

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