There's so much hype about being inseparable with your best friend, and how you should spend every waking moment with them. People tend to think that the person that is your best friend is the person that you spend the most time with. A person who is constantly on your side is fun and assuring. I've had that. I've even had that with my best friend, but we no longer see each other every day. Honestly, we don't even talk every day, but this doesn't mean that we are any less of best friends than when our signature was that we were always together.
Growing up means growing busier, but not necessarily growing apart.
The actual truth of growing up is that all of the things that were once a no-brainer get a lot harder. We're no longer living in neighboring dorms with nearly the exact same class schedule and being in the exact same organizations. We are both growing up. We've had to make sacrifices in our lives and we both are wrapped up in our future career and current jobs and leadership positions in our organizations, but this actually strengthens our relationship.
The test of true friendship is not that we spend tons of time together when it's convenient, but that we are always there for each other when it isn't.
Our friendship dynamic has changed a little. We don't have the time to analyze everything like we used to and discuss everything under the sun, but every time I really need someone to talk to, she's the first person I turn to. I know that if I called my best friend any time of day, she would drop everything to be there for me, and vice versa.
You figure out who you're true friends are at times like this.
When your own life is going a million miles a minute and you don't have time for a lot, you figure out which friends were true friends and which friends were only you're friends out of convenience. So my best friend and I don't talk every day, and we see each other less than we talk. But we have the rest of our lives full of days to talk, and I know that she will be there for me for every single one of them.
