All friendships go through stages just like relationships. First there's the holiday stage. You and your BFF can do no wrong. He or she is the peanut butter to your jelly. The sunshine to your morning. Everything is all roses and you guys are closer than two peas in a pod. Heck, you might even finish each other's sentences. The last thing on your minds are being apart. Once this starts to cool down you begin getting comfortable around each other--too comfortable.
You begin sharing embarrassing information with each other and doing embarrassing things around each other. Farting and other bodily noises/functions are now the norm between the two of you. Now's when the friendship can diverge into something healthy and long-lasting or spiral into the frightening abyss of hell. Of course you would think this would never happen--we're BFF's right? Well once the friendship begins to unravel, jealousy can rear its ugly head and for some of us this can turn into something we will never forget.
I regret to inform you that my former best friend made my life a living hell. Not because I did something to offend her but because she became jealous of me, the neighborhood nerd. Really? It began with random insults, which turned into daily harassment, when then turned to physical threats and finally stalking. (She sent her boyfriend to my school who followed me around campus in his car. I called campus police and they arrested him for aggravated stalking. I ended up filing a restraining order for both him and my BFF).
Tragic right? I hope this never happens to any of you but just in case these are the top 10 warning signs your BFF has been possessed by the green-eyed monster.
1. They want to know everything that you say or do with anyone. This is NOT normal. Everyone has a certain level of privacy but if they do not respect your privacy then this is an issue.
2. They will not allow you to associate with anyone else but them. Talk about possessive.
3. They poke fun at the things that you have accomplished or achieved in life.
4. They can NEVER say anything positive about what you do or don't do in your life.
5. They manipulate you into thinking that everyone on the planet is against you and will consistently try to isolate you from your circle of friends and family.
6. It's either their way or the highway in any situation.
7. If you have the "audacity" of making your own decisions then their anger towards you will be worse than hell on earth.
8. They constantly think you are gossiping about them to others.
9. It's easy for them to threaten you even if it sounds light-hearted.
10. It's easy for them to talk you out of doing something positive.
Warning: if you are experiencing any or all of these "symptoms" with your BFF then try to sit down and talk to them about it. If these behaviors still exist then do yourself a favor and drop THEM like their hot!!
