Are you attracted to men in chubbies, bro tanks and Sperry's? Are you most likely to find them playing beer pong? Do they follow Old Row and Total Frat Move on Instagram? Does he keep bothering you about buying a philanthropy ticket? If so, they are most likely in a frat and you are going to need some advice. The biggest question of your college life, are frat guy's dateable?
With the reputation of of being a ladies man and constantly partying, how do we know if Brad from Kappa Sig is boyfriend material? Well, if Brad is hitting on Ashley from Delta Zeta at the formal...and her BIG, red flag him. Obviously, the frat stigma doesn't give off the "settle down" vibe. With the stereotype of being a "frat guy", we have to assume the worst until they prove themselves otherwise. Most of them (key word is most, you do get lucky sometimes) drink like it is the last keg stand on the planet. Some think they are 007 and their mission is just to get with girls, you gotta get respect from the bro's somehow. Keep in mind, not all guys in a frat hold up to the status quo.
If they stop talking to other girls and aren't afraid to show you off, chances are he is being real about this relationship. The red flags are when he has to hangout with you in private or only late at night. If he makes disrespectful comments about you in front of his frat brothers to get props from it, you should probably toss him out like last nights PJ. If he uses words like slam, shacker, etc. too often or wears bow ties to informal events, take caution. If he shows respect to you and lets you know he cares about you, he clearly isn't like the rest. Not all of them join to live in the Animal House and set a record for shotgunning a beer, some join for the brotherhood and philanthropy. Also, they are involved in community service and activities so they at least somewhat mean well.
I have a confession, my boyfriend is in a frat. At first, I was hesitant. I know about the frat life and I am not about that. All the partying and girls is like a barrier to trust, but if a guy is trustworthy he will prove it to you. Most guys in college are not all ready for a commitment, so we can't solely blame that on the frat life. My boyfriend is the biggest sweetheart so don't let the letters mislead you. It's cheesy, but if it's the right person then it won't matter what organization or lifestyle it is. Plus, there are plenty of guys that aren't dateable and they aren't even in a frat. Don't let a stereotype stop you from dating someone.
